I don't know if I can recover

[thisishard]

I am not saying I am right, I am saying I knew I had struggles and needed to work on them. I had a rough few years and fell into an unhealthy obsession with a man whom I tortured myself over day and night for a long time of who he would be with. He wanted to meet but I couldn't do it and explained why. I moved to a new town. A new place and wanted to start over. He took over all my online activities and I at first thought it was love. I tried to move on slowly but it was so hard being my obsession and him around so I pleaded with him to leave. He began to abuse me online and try to support me in real life. It wasn't helping me move on so he dumped me believe it or not on a website where he told me all the reasons we are not one. It's insane.

 

 

I wanted to use this site and talk about things. I registered for school. Got a house. Got my kid back. Was seeing a therapist ( third session this week) and in home health care. My phone was hacked and he said indirectly that everything I was doing was for him. I pleaded to have him stop because I knew he was playing but my feelings were real. In my attempt to stop this, he called the police and said I was harassing him.

 

He's a rich, successful and popular guy who treated me this way to help me move on from him. He never had interest and would never treat another this poorly. Just me!

[preraph]

Well, there are some real psychopaths out there online.

 

You need to listen to me and pay attention to your therapist ALL the time.

First of all, you don't even KNOW this guy because you never met him. Who he says he is is a lot of BS. He is saying what he thinks will work with you. He is a liar and a jerk and unless you have skyped him, you don't even know if he matches the photo or is a man at all.

 

When you fall in love with someone you haven't met you are only falling in love with the ideal man in your head who you hope he will be. No one is that person. So if you find yourself falling in love online, just know it's an illusion. Meet him, and he's probably some completely socially crippled guy who is acting out online what he hasn't the nerve to do in real life.

 

You know the obvious answer here. Block the guy on all your social media and on your phones and never respond to him again. Before you do, write him one text or email that you will keep that says "Please do not ever contact me again or try to access my social media." This is for the police in case you have to get a restraining order on him. Keep a log of every contact up to and past when he was put on notice with dates and description.

 

Block him.

[thisishard]

We met. we worked together for 3 months and then I quit. I was online and his friend was online. It was a real person I knew..

 

It's hard. I'm a little frantic so I logged on. It's hard for sure. These guys have more post and are still trying to "help" me even after this happened. It's like round three.