Why do some exes reach out after some time has passed only to go cold again?

[Mizz Layta]

I recently had an ex who reached out after more than year of no contact.He left several messages on Face book stating that he misses me and thinks about me all the time.I succumbed thinking he wants to work things out but ut turned out I was wrong .We got back in contact and it wasn't long until he started acting flaky,treating me like an afterthought by making commitments he wouldn't keep.He didn't follow through with our plans to meet either.Now ,he says we might have something in the future but now he has a lot going in his life. I think there's someone else because he stopped initiating contact up to that point

 

He has gone cold again.I'm hurt all over again .I wish he would have left me alone .I'll never respond to him again if he reaches out in the future.Why do exes come back in our lives when they don't really want to be with us?

[oasis]

.Why do exes come back in our lives when they don't really want to be with us?

 

 

 

They come back for an ego boost, or a romance may have ended. Loneliness. Things not working out in their lives or just checking to see if you are still pining over them. Once confirmed, they disappear.

 

 

Rarely do they want to try again. It may make you feel good that they have contacted you, but in the future do not fall prey to it. Contact from an ex is usually about them and their egos....as opposed to resurrecting a broken relationship.

 

 

If he tries again...and he may, ignore and block him as nothing good will ever come out of it.

[juniorrocha]

I believe that sometimes they're just confused as well. Maybe he thought he missed you, but when he reached out to you and you reciprocated, maybe then he realized he didn't.

 

But not everyone behaves that way. Your ex apparently does though so you should stay away from him.

[surferchic]

Personally, after I left my ex I reached out to him because 1)i sincerely did miss him and 2) and to get a slight ego boost because I felt like I hurt him (his ego) so badly that he was holding lots of resentment against me. He rold me he didnt want us to break-up several times, still I went through with it. I left him for good reason(s) ,still i missed him for almost a year and a half after breaking up.

 

Not all dumpers are completely selfish when reaching out. Just depends on the details of each relationship.