ExtraSpice Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 Long story short. Met this girl through a dating app. She is only here till December then she returns to her home country. I have gone out with her three times now. All three dates have been great (at least I think so). They were all fairly long, and interesting. It seemed like there was good chemistry and playful flirtation. During the dates I feel that the effort and involvement was 50-50. However, I have been the one to initiate all three dates. I also initiate majority of the text conversations. When I didn't text her for two days neither did she. But when I did text her she seemed excited and engaged in the conversation that followed. I went out with her this Saturday. And towards the end of the date she suggested hanging out this Sunday also. She had some commitments so we decided to play it by ear. Well I didn't receive any text today. Not even one saying sorry it got too busy. Her interest level during the dates and then other times doesn't seem to be consistent. I have decided to see if she texts at all or tries to set something up. If she doesn't that's a good as sign as any to move on. I can understand that her priorities are different than mine because of the situation. I am not asking for a full on commitment. More just a 50-50 effort in hanging out on a weekend and doing things for the time she is here. Does it seem as though I'm deluding myself about her interest? Would you say letting the ball be in her court and if she doesn't throw it back then move on is the smart thing to do? Interested in some outside perspective. Thanks
ja123 Posted October 6, 2016 Posted October 6, 2016 The first thing that comes to mind, since you met her on a dating app, is that she's probably multi-dating. So, she welcomes your attention, but doesn't initiate because she's also getting attention from elsewhere. Since she's leaving in December and I'm assuming you want to sleep with her, then initiate something physical on your next date. 1
scooby-philly Posted October 7, 2016 Posted October 7, 2016 Dude She's in the country for a defined amount of time. She's probably not multi-dating....though it could happen. She's probably just busy and trying to make friends. If you like her and she responds...make a move - put pressure on her. Either she likes you enough to respond that she'll become more attentive or she'll let you know where the line in the sand is and you can try to start imagining her more as a friend.
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