happygo Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 Hi all, I've been dating this guy for about a month and we really like each other and that I don't doubt. But based on my other relationship - which was with an ******* - I feel like I got into a rut. I feel like the chase was gone and I was too predictable. I'm sure this may vary when you're with someone who is decent, but isn't true that things go smoothly when there's more space and you keep a man wondering about you? I'm pretty open with him and we've been opening up, I just hope it hasn't been going too fast. According to him, there's no timestamp on things like this. He calls me, checks on me, etc. We spend time together, he just helped me move in to my first apartment and met my mother... What do you guys think? Am I just biased and thinking too hard thanks to my last relationship? I'm also kind of afraid of falling for someone who potentially doesn't have my best interest at heart. But I guess that's the risk in love?
Smoothman Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 I guess that's the risk in love? There's your answer No one here, no one you know, not even the guy himself can tell you of this is going to last... You just have to try, and not let your own anxiety ruin it. 1
mortensorchid Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 How long since your last relationship? Watch out for a rebound first because a rebound relationship is not a good one. Second, remember that if you go in thinking that it's going to be a disaster, this one will also because you will make it. I can't stand people who go in and whine and cry about something from the past, and even if the other party isn't doing anything questionable or wrong, they insist on screwing it up. And if the other party isn't screwing things up, one person insists on making a mess of it. Don't be that person. 1
Author happygo Posted October 3, 2016 Author Posted October 3, 2016 How long since your last relationship? Watch out for a rebound first because a rebound relationship is not a good one. Second, remember that if you go in thinking that it's going to be a disaster, this one will also because you will make it. I can't stand people who go in and whine and cry about something from the past, and even if the other party isn't doing anything questionable or wrong, they insist on screwing it up. And if the other party isn't screwing things up, one person insists on making a mess of it. Don't be that person. That is true. It's been since April. I've dated someone else prior to this guy but it was more so casual and I wasn't quite ready nor did I really like him that much. But this guy I really see a future with. I'm just trying to not let the past get in the way. He just treats me well and differently than I have been and I don't to bask in it right away - I feel like when a guy knows you like him a lot then he'll take advantage, but maybe that's just a bad guy overall?
Toodaloo Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 Some men just get better and better as time goes by. Some men turn out to be nasty b*****s. No way to tell other than to take your time and get to know him. He sounds sweet. Quit comparing him to your ex as it will get dull after a while. Enjoy it and enjoy him for who he is.
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