HumanMachine Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 My good friend who I also have a sexual relationship with has gone nc, i have absolutely no clue as to why. I dropped her at work one morning after an amazing night together, she said "see you later", that was the last time I spoke to her. She has ignored all messages and calls since. I'm more upset that I've lost a valued friend over the sexual side of things. She has bags of clothes and other stuff at my place - what should I do with it all? I refuse to drop it at her place after the way she has acted..
Author HumanMachine Posted October 2, 2016 Author Posted October 2, 2016 She has started dating someone. That's absolutely fine with me but to lose the friendship? Odd.. 1
marky00 Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 That's absolutely fine with me but to lose the friendship? Odd.. Because she knows the new BF won't be cool with her having you on the side. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 That's absolutely fine with me but to lose the friendship? Odd.. Well, you two are not just friends anymore. That dynamic changed as you as you started having sex. FWBs don't often go back to the friendship they had before. Or perhaps she's been sleeping with him too, and there's over-lap she doesn't want either of you discovering. Imagine her telling her new guy, "This is my friend HumanMachine. By the way we used to sleep together." Would you want your new girlfriend hanging out with a guy she used to have sex with? Having said that, she could have clued you in with a call or message. But people often choose the "easier" way out and just fade. Do you two have any mutual friends who could deliver her items back to her? She clearly doesn't want them that much or she'd have contacted you about it. 1
Frozensushi Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 Imagine her telling her new guy, "This is my friend HumanMachine. By the way we used to sleep together." Would you want your new girlfriend hanging out with a guy she used to have sex with? That would be like a knife to the gut. I can hardly stomach when a GF tells me about her past lovers in conversation.
Author HumanMachine Posted October 2, 2016 Author Posted October 2, 2016 Well, you two are not just friends anymore. That dynamic changed as you as you started having sex. FWBs don't often go back to the friendship they had before. Or perhaps she's been sleeping with him too, and there's over-lap she doesn't want either of you discovering. Imagine her telling her new guy, "This is my friend HumanMachine. By the way we used to sleep together." Would you want your new girlfriend hanging out with a guy she used to have sex with? Having said that, she could have clued you in with a call or message. But people often choose the "easier" way out and just fade. Do you two have any mutual friends who could deliver her items back to her? She clearly doesn't want them that much or she'd have contacted you about it. That's understandable. No mutual friends however it has only been a couple of days so she may arrange to collect it. 1
Frozensushi Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 That's understandable. No mutual friends however it has only been a couple of days so she may arrange to collect it. That's too bad. You weren't in a real relationship with her, so the wounds can't be that severe. That is unless you developed feelings for her, which isn't unusual in a FWB situation.
spiderowl Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 That's absolutely fine with me but to lose the friendship? Odd.. It sounds odd. I think I'd be worried for her safety,
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