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Hi..I got to know a guy - both males here, him being 10 years my senior - on a dating site 3 weeks ago. Since then, we've been talking a lot on whatsapp about everything. So far so great, as he sounds to be extremely cultivated, but we may not click enough when we meet up in person. Otherwise, we're both interested in becoming friends, intimately as well..

 

He lives about 3 hours' flight far from me, and is visiting my country - which is his country of origin too - in 3 days. He has no family here now, so should I invite him over (even if we may not hit on each other live)?

 

Thanks..

 

P.S. I also have my nephew as a student staying with me - I told him too - but could send the former to my brother for a night or two..

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No.

 

I have never heard of anything so stupid or dangerous in all my days.

 

By all means meet up with the guy in a public place but no. You do not put yourself in danger by inviting him to your home the first time you meet. He could be anything or anyone.

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BaileyB Established Member

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Meet in a public place.

 

This man is a stranger to you. Why would you invite a stranger to stay in your home. Be safe and smart!

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both males here.

By the way do not think that just because you are male it is OK and safe. It isn't. Men get attacked and raped just as much as women. That is straight and gay men.

 

Your sexuality or gender is NOT the issue here. The issue is that you do not know this person and conversations etc over whatsapp are just NOT enough to be able to know or fully trust a strange person with your safety in your home.

 

Please for the love of small goats DO NOT DO THIS.

 

Meet him, get to know him, spend time with him in a safe place first. Then by all means invite him back to your apartment when you know you will be safe.

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alpet hope your date goes well :) take care!

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Thanks guys, I was of two minds about that too. Let him rather check in a hotel..

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Hi..I got to know a guy - both males here, him being 10 years my senior - on a dating site 3 weeks ago. Since then, we've been talking a lot on whatsapp about everything. So far so great, as he sounds to be extremely cultivated, but we may not click enough when we meet up in person. Otherwise, we're both interested in becoming friends, intimately as well..

 

He lives about 3 hours' flight far from me, and is visiting my country - which is his country of origin too - in 3 days. He has no family here now, so should I invite him over (even if we may not hit on each other live)?

 

Thanks..

 

P.S. I also have my nephew as a student staying with me - I told him too - but could send the former to my brother for a night or two..

 

Did you invite him? If so, you should have made other arrangements other than staying with you. YOU DON'T KNOW THIS PERSON! If he was making the trip anyway, he would have already arranged for accommodations, right? Either way, you are taking an unnecessary risk inviting someone you don't know into your home.

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