maxalton Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 (edited) I would appreciate opinions on this topic from both men and women. My sister is 26 and has a 6 year old daughter. We've had a rough life, a rough family life, and we're both emotionally damaged in ways. Im not gonna lie, we're both kind of crazy because of our poor upbringing. I dare to say she's even wilder/crazier than me. She even brings it up in conversation occasionally how she's "ruined." She's had guys coming in-and-out of her life for a long time. She says how she wants stability for her and her daughter. I see her sharing pictures on facebook occasionally of wedding dresses/rings saying she hopes thats her one day. Well, she's been dating several different guys over the past several months (for really short stints because something would happen and they would break up. She's told me in the past how she 'cant keep a man.' I think thats partially due to the fact that she's been attracted to bad boys.) Two months ago, she met a guy who looked like a total bad boy (tattooed up, looked like a rebel, good looking, smooth, etc.) She would make posts on facebook about him, basically GUSHING over him and it seemed every night she would be tagging him in stauses about dates they were on (showing off to her facebook friends.) Me and my girlfriend double-dated with them once. A couple weeks in, he went back to his kid's mother. My sister was really hurt. A few days later, he told her he changed his mind and wanted to continue dating her. She agreed (foolishly.) About a week later, he went back to his kid's mother again and they broke it off for good. She was crushed (yet again) and making facebook stauses asking why can't she meet a good man. I haven't seen her since then, but apparently she met a new guy 2-3 weeks ago (which was only a couple weeks after the badboy ditched her.) This guy looks the TOTAL opposite of the last guy she dated. No tattoos, doesn't look rebellious at all, not the best-looking guy, etc. I generally know her criteria in men, speficially in the looks-department and this guy just....didn't seem to fit the bill. And she hasn't been writing all these facebook stauses gushing over him, like she did the last guy. I would notice how he would Like all of her stauses (like the typical needy 'nice guy' would do) etc. etc. The other night she posted a picture of these flowers he bought her and how he fixed her window in her house while she was at work. Well, after only knowing this guy for 2-3 weeks, I see on facebook that they're in a relationship with eachother. I'm obviously going to talk to her at some point, but I just would like opinions on this situation. Although she's always said she wanted 'stability' for her and her daughter, this whole situation seems fishy and seemed like it happened incredibly too fast. This guy even has a son who's about the same age as her daughter! Which I think could further cement their relationship or potentially lock them in with eachother even more. What are your opinions? Is this a rebound relationship? Do you think it'll last? I love my sister and want her to be happy, but Im worried that she's really desperate for love at this point and she probably rushed into this. Edited October 1, 2016 by maxalton Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 Your sister appears to have found a good man and they really like each other. Yes, they have said that they are "in a relationship" but it's hardly like they've decided to marry. I can't see that this is any different to her previous dating except that he may be kind and thoughtful man. Do not speak with her about this. Yes, it may well go pearshaped, but it's truly none of your business. And what's with your comment about him acting like a 'needy nice guy' because he liked her FB posts? A guy can simply be a good bloke acting without guile. This is not a negative trait. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 I would just let this one go and be happy for her that she has finally broke the cycle of d0*&^% bag BFs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Thatoneguy55 Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 The fact that you have an over-bearing relationship with your sister is a symptom of whatever it was you guys went through. But I promise you it does not make the situation better. Unless she's doing something to endanger herself or her child, I would say that you are spending way too much time thinking about who she sleeping with. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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