I'll let you know!

[carlnrtn]

Misread the tip bit, you were on about waitresses.

 

I've asked her out. If she really had zero interest in me, then she has no reason whatsoever to continue to engage with me like she has. She has no supervisor or management to worry about, she works alone on the late shift. So if there was zero interest, surely a basic "hi, how you doing?" kind of greeting that she gives every other guest would do fine?

[carlnrtn]

And in response to your second post... I am interested in other perspectives, hence why I'm asking on here. But you seem all very negative. All I'm saying, is maybe she's scared of the idea of a date? That's a lot of pressure. Speaking to me in her work setting and getting to know me that way is a lot less pressure than sitting down with someone alone and being "forced" to interact. In a work settings, it's come and go, she's in her own environment.

 

And I know that feeling first hand. I deal with hundreds off different people every year in my work. I am perfectly comfortable with that. But when I am interested in someone like this, it's a different ball game altogether. It becomes scary, intimidating, and I struggle to just be myself.

[Timshel]

I appreciate your input... But I think you're wrong. For one, I haven't been bugging her at all. I asked her out once, then came back later to give her my number. Then again a few days later.

 

Perhaps she's scared ****less of texting me. Perhaps she just needs a little encouragement and to get her at the right time. Maybe she is interested, but hasn't fully made her mind up about me yet?

, so perhaps she's dragging it out to see if I really am genuine and am thinking about the future not just the next 5 minutes?

 

I'm not asking people if I should give up. I'm asking how do I go about getting a positive result out of this. Even if that positive result is a no, but I wall away with my head held high saying I gave it my best.

 

Carl, let this go. This woman is at work. She has your #, you have asked her out. If she is smitten, she will tell you she wants to see you outside of work.

 

You've gone above and beyond to show your interest and are now entering creep territory.

 

Again, this woman is at work and doing her best to be courteous, it's best to let this rest as trying to pick up a person while they are working is usually quite tacky.

 

You can walk away at this point knowing that you have given it 'your best.'

[Imajerk17]

I think scenarios like this are pretty common on here:

 

1. Guy meets girl he is attracted to and he suspects she is giving him some signs of interest.

 

2. Guy asks out girl in a diffident way. Girl follows Guy's lead and says something like "I'll let you know!" Not a yes, but not a no either. I mean, guy asked in such a wishy-washy way that it was hard for her to say yes.

 

3. Guy really wishes he had been more confident. He could handle her saying no in that case. Furthermore, signs were that he might have actually had a date if he were a bit more direct!

 

I dunno, in light of the fact that she is still being friendly to him (as opposed to merely professional), I think the opinions that asking her out again would be tantamount to stalking or harassing her, are just way too severe. Cripes. Especially because he will only be there several days longer. Chances are she knows what is up--and that she gets that her being friendly (above and beyond the job description that is) might inspire the guy to try again, and yet she seems to be OK with it. I'd say there is even quite a chance she's say yes!

 

So this is what I suggest OP:

 

Next time you and she are talking say "So when are we getting that drink?" Have a couple options in mind. No hard sell needed. If she hems and haws say that's cool and let it be. You will have asked and have gotten your answer.

 

Now again, I am advising the OP to ask again BECAUSE she is being friendly to him, a bit above and beyond her professional duties. I'm not advocating harassing anyone at their place of work. If this woman were merely professional, I'd say let it be.

Edited October 2, 2016 by Imajerk17

[carlnrtn]

Thank you. It's responses like that thay make sense. I'm not a nut job, I know when enough is enough and there's no way I'd harass or try to force anyone into anything.

 

Tonight, she hasn't been very forthcoming at all, so I haven't approached anything. I'm working late the next few nights, so I figured I'd use this chance as the whole 'a sense makes the heart grow fonder' thing, and see how she is on my return. If she doesn't seem keen in a couple of days when I see her next, then I'll take the hint and drop it. If she is forthcoming and chatty, then I'll take others advice and make it definitive and final approach. Thanks all for your help.