she texted me tonight about my away message!

[fallenheart45]

Well Actually...she was the one who read it...I didn't tell her to read it

 

its funny...after she texted me saying "Sweet Away Message...that's gross"

 

I texted my ex back later that night saying..."wow, you have it all wrong. She did try to kiss me tonight, but I stopped her and told her my heart belongs else where"

 

then I texted another message saying "but hell, I don't know why I tell you. its not like you fricken care!"

 

she texted back saying "yeah I do"

 

THEN....about 12:30 a.m. She called me twice. I didn't answer...then finally I texted her saying "I just woke up..did you mean to call me? " 5 mintues later she called me and I answered.

 

She was like "HI..."

then she started to talk about the message...I was like babe...leave it alone. She kept saying..she's thinner than me huh...she's prettier than me huh? I said...babe...my heart belongs to you..and she was like yeah. She told me that she is not serious with anyone..she said her emotions are really mixed up right now...and I was like..yeah...and it kept going on about her asking questions about the girl I was with...hint *jealously*

 

Well..about 20 mins later we get off, and she says, she will probably give me a call later on some time...and we off on VERY GOOD TERMS....saying "take care..good night" And I told her I would probably call her again! ....I"m so ****ed up...its like she playing with my head..

 

 

What do you all think...what do you think she wants???

 

I BELIEVE THAT SHE STILL CARES FOR ME..AND FROM ALL OF THIS, THIS IS HOW I STILL HAVE FAITH AND HOPE =)

[lvgrly]

its not just her playing with your head, its you. Its like you dont care that she knows about it all, nor does it bother you..But then as soon as she asks about it, you tell her to leave it alone..??..?? How does that make sense.

 

I dont think you should have told her about what you told this girl..Cause all that its doing is letting her know that she has you where she wants you. You turned down another girl for her, and let her know about it..Thats just asking to get stuck in this situation for a while...

 

Yeah, it does sound like she still cares for you, and you for her..But you guys need to stop playing these little games with one another before anything else can happen..

 

And you said that you didnt ask her to read it, No you didnt, but by putting that up there KNOWING or even thinking there was a chance she would read it, that leaves the away message that you left done intentionally.

[Mary3]

You believe what you * want * to believe. All your actions are * choices * YOU choose to make her jealous. Why are you both still talking ? Where is your Break ( NC ) ? What is this game you are each playing ?

 

You better stop before someone really gets hurt.

 

Oh by the way, if you were my ex , and you put that fake lame AWAY message on the screen . I would have sniffed you out right away. Unless she is clueless , she knows what you did. Did you enjoy her reaction ? Of course you did.

 

Grow up. Leave it alone.

 

Either get back with her or leave her BE !

 

Its quite nauseating of you to do this to her.

[orta]

I don't know how to effectively convey my message without coming across as very harsh.

 

Quit talking to your ex. Stop text messaging her. Stop talking to her on AIM. Don't ask people about her, or look at her blog, or away messages, or profiles (if she has any of those things, and you have done any of those things). Don't accept e-mails from her, or phone calls, or IMs, or text messages. Block her from your telephone, your cellular phone, AIM, and any other medium of contact.

 

You are obsessing over this girl, and it will only be a matter of time before this girl decides to get fed up with you, and take your behavior as stalking. You need to realize that it is highly possible your ex might grow tired of your games, and decide to get the law involved. If you phone her a few times, or text message her, and she does not want to talk to you, this girl could actually call the cops. Be careful.

 

Also, don't go hanging out with women when you aren't over your ex. Hang out with your friends, exercise, focus on your job (or get one if you don't already have one) or college, and give yourself time to heal. Every time you go and check up on your ex, do something in an attempt to make her jealous, or try to talk to your ex, you mess everything up for yourself.

[Mary3]

Amen Orta ! Hope this poster has woken up and stopped the play games....

[EC]

She was bored with you. She dumped you. You tried to get her back numerous times and it didn't work. She thinks she has you wrapped around her pinky. Al of a sudden your getting into a C cup and it isn't hers. She flips out with jealousy and is confused because she didn't want anything to do with you and now all of a sudden she can't see you with somebody else.

 

I think you should not talk to her for a while. You had that good convo and ended the convo on good terms. Now disappear for a while. For about a good week. No calls no texts no anything. She is really confused right now. And I know you want her back but how can she fulfill everything you need and what she needs with her head in all that confusion. Even if you guys are fine now and were to 'maybe' get back together I could bet money she will be confused again about a week after being together.

 

I say give her some time to think and clear the confusion. If you are still there though and around her you are just adding to the confusion. Pull yourself out of it and she will see you in a different light, because right now you are in that circle of a mess and she connects you with not so happy thoughts and confusion and thats not what you want. Which is why you have to step away from her for a while.

 

Then let her come to you. She dumped right? Let her come to you and then when she does don't make it that easy for her.

[Mary3]

I would not get the false hope that by instilling NC is how you win her back.

 

Your relationship is fractured.

 

Its not what it was and can never be exactly what it used to be and to try to go back into history is the reason it ended. Its done.

 

Now both of you are hanging on .

 

To fear. Let it go in the only humane way and thats to BOTH not talk to eachother.

[XNemesisX]

First of all...if my ex had put up an away msg like that I would have been like this =

 

Its so obviously fake and immature. But, it appears it did the trick and made her a bit jealous. Way to go on telling her your heart belonged to her. Big mistake. You just gave up any power you once had in this situation. The only way you can regain any power whatsoever is to stop calling and just fall of the face of her planet for a while.

[AndrewJ]

Xnemesisx,

 

are those your lil puppies in your pic?

 

So shaggy and cute

[Jijomo]

To origional poster:

 

If the man I loved left an away message like that, I'd automatically think that he plans to get laid later that night, and that's what he meant by "Trying to fit into a C cup" and "Don't bother calling", and my heart would be SMASHED!

 

And I'd be desperate for some kind of comfort, so I'd write him a note putting down his attitude about getting laid...because I'm so desperately jealous of the woman that he's getting lucky with.

 

She still loves you, and she still wants you, and you had her right where you wanted her when she left that note in response to your away message.

 

BUT THEN you screwed it up by telling her that you still want her, and you didn't kiss another girl, because you still love her. So now, she ONCE AGAIN has the upper hand, and is no longer jealous, because she now knows 100% that she has nothing to worry about.

 

You had her scared. Within a week, she'd have been BEGGIN for you back.

 

Now, sit back and watch her walk all over you...again.

[XNemesisX]

Originally posted by AndrewJ

Xnemesisx,

 

are those your lil puppies in your pic?

 

So shaggy and cute

 

The one on the right is my dog (the strawberry blonde dog) and the white dog is my best friend's dog. They are best friends too! They looove to play together!

[AndrewJ]

Xnemesisx,

 

tears of laughter

 

They look so funny and cute!

 

I want one

[fallenheart45]

WOW!!!!!

 

EC...I must say thanks for your comments...I think you hit the spot.

 

Now alot of stuff as went down since the convo after I went to the other girls house. First, the night after it all happend she texted me saying "hows the C cup" AGAIN! at midnight friday night! I said, "why do you say things like that? I don't say those things to you!, are you kidding when you say those things?" She replied "yea"

 

Anyway...I told my friends I am tired of playing games with her...and I wanted THE TRUTH!!!!!!

 

So I told her I would call her saturday, she was like ok, but I never did because I was busy, then she kept asking when I was going to call (so I know somthing is still there)

 

So I end up calling her to ask if she misses me, loves me, or not even 100% over me. She said yes...I"m NOT 100% over you! I said ..."ok, that is all I wanted to know, I am not going to pursue you, I just wanted the truth because It hurts to talk to you when I don't know what is going on." then we got off the phone.

 

Now, later that day I was out to eat with my friends and she texted me somthing she never texted me since we broke up..she said, "if you get bored on the drive home you can call" .

 

So I never did call her...then at like 10 o'clock she called and we talked for a like an hour...during that hour she kept saying..."oh you rather talk to her than me huh?"

And stuff that IF we got back together..she kept saying that..if this...if that...will I be in your way of having fun if we got back together..**** like that...and a whole bunch of other stuff that I wanted to hear. Such as she doesnt' want anything to happen to the guy that likes her...she said, "I don't want nothing to happend"

 

I think I played it cool...then we got off the phone.

 

And just yesterday I had another away message up saying " to golds, shower, then out to eat...then sleep!!!!"

 

THEN SHE TEXTS ME SAYING.. " HII" THEN ANOTHER ONE LATER SAYING " where did you and your gurrrl go out to eat at =)"

 

I never have responded back to her....DO YOU THINK I HAVE THE POWER AGAIN?

 

 

EC.....I'M REALLY COUNTING ON YOUR ADVICE AS WELL AS OTHERS!

 

=)

[westernxer]

You'll have the power when you quit telling her where you go and who you see...

[totallyconfused]

i'll have to admit, westernxer is on a roll. right on the dot. man. hAHhahahah

 

fallen heart, im a female, i've been there and done that. what everyone here is telling u is the truth. we just gotta be STRONG! we dont need people that play games and hurt us. and if they lie, they take that decision away from us. so go have fun and find out what the C-cup is all about. maybe next post u can play kiss-n-tell

[Mary3]

Its just so dumb what you are doing.

 

You KNOW exactly what you are doing and you are coming on here to verify that you are sneaky and childish.

 

Reveling in your text messages and being * the man in power *, when in fact , you are showing LOSER all over your forehead when you do this .

 

SO she cares ?

 

So she doesn't ?

 

Who cares ?

 

The answer " Nobody cares "

 

Its just a game to you. A game to her. Both of you know what you need to do here.

 

I thought you were getting smarter but I see you are still in the poo pit swimming around for little tid bits of proof that she still cares in some lame way.

 

I know I would not tolerate or participate in the Jr. High School crapola of text messages, lies, fake away messages, lame requests for help on a really helpful site like this one, more idiotic things to come for you I am sure.

 

Glad you arent my ex. How boring and meaningless you made your former relationship with her .

[XNemesisX]

If she still cares so much then why aren't you two back together already?

[EC]

So I told her I would call her saturday, she was like ok, but I never did because I was busy, then she kept asking when I was going to call (so I know something is still there)

 

So I end up calling her to ask if she misses me, loves me, or not even 100% over me. She said yes...I"m NOT 100% over you! I said ..."ok, that is all I wanted to know, I am not going to pursue you, I just wanted the truth because It hurts to talk to you when I don't know what is going on." then we got off the phone.

 

Im sorry Fallenheart but I don't think that was a very smart move. If I was she and you called me after we had broken up and your 'supposedly' having all this fun, and you called to ask me that question, I would think " Yeah he still wants me."

 

Let me tell you whats going on. I do believe she still has feelings for you but she is playing games. She see's it like this:

 

You may have that C cup girl in your life but your still calling her and texting her and that makes her feel good. The fact that She is still the number 1 girl. Im thinking that she doesnt want to be with you right now but she doesn't want you to be with anyone else either.

 

In my honest opinion If you do want to get back with her I would stop trying to make her jealous by talking about other girls or dating other girls. That will come back to haunt you if you do get back together. Or it might ruin your chances all together because she might think

"well Im not going to put my feelings on the line because I will get hurt because he has someone else. "

 

I know your doing it to make her jealous and think about you but you know what really kills people? Silence. When they dont know anything about your life, and your not calling and your not responding back to them.

 

And all that crap about not wanting to hurt the other guy? WTF? Didn't she dump you for him? She didn't tell him I don't know I don't want to hurt my bf? She wasn't thinking of your feelings when she dumped you.

 

I say dont call her and just let her call you. When she calls you or text message dont answer all the time and dont write back all the time. Just answer once in a while and dont let her know whats going on in your private life. Keep it simple. And ask her how everything is going with her then say its been nice talking I have to go.

 

If she really wanted you Fallenheart she would leave that guy, and show up at your door apologizing for ever letting you out of her life. Believe that!

[fallenheart45]

Originally posted by EC

 

If she really wanted you Fallenheart she would leave that guy, and show up at your door apologizing for ever letting you out of her life. Believe that!

 

EC...funny that you say that..because she IS NOT DATING THIS GUY NO MORE. They haven't talked since last saturday!

 

Yet she IM"S asking what I am doing. And when I "ignored" her calls and texts..she texted me last night saying "Thanks for getting back with me"

So I called her and and said sorry...I could n't find my phone

 

Then she wanted to know who I went out to eat, at first I told her, don't worry about it. then she started to get mad...and then I cave in..I said ..no one =(

 

We talked for a little over an hour! About stuff....we ARE ON GREAT TERMS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

VERY GOOD! She is coming home this weekend..I wonder if she will call me to hang out???????

 

 

..your so cute EC =)

 

[EC]

..your so cute EC =)

lol Thanx.

 

EC...funny that you say that..because she IS NOT DATING THIS GUY NO MORE. They haven't talked since last saturday!

 

Oh well that changes things.I thought she was still dating another guy. Scratch half of what I said earlier.

 

Are they just not speaking like in a fight or are they over for good??

 

I'm glad your on good terms!! So what exactly has she said about getting back together with you?

[fallenheart45]

Well she just wants to be single for a while to see what she wants. I think I should just remain freinds with her and let her come to me. She just texteed me now too see how I was doing. And she is like "I"m coming home tomorrow!!!"

 

So I think it will be good ...I am just going to sit and wait..what do you think?

[westernxer]

Wait for what?

[BLF04]

Buddy, I've been there. I went through this 3 years ago with my ex gf when i was 19. She dumped me for some other guy after 8 months of dating. I did the whole jealousy thing etc..., 8 months later she came crawlin' back. I dumped my gf at the time to get back with her. We then dated for 2 years and we broke up 2 months ago. she broke it off again but we both agreed it was never the same as the first time. I loved her, bragged about her to my friends etc... the 1st time. The 2nd time around I never said 'I love you' as much, because I didn't. The 2nd time I resented her, how could I brag about her after what she did?

 

People break up and get back together all the time, at least in my extended circle.

 

So I say to you: It sounds to me that you two have a good chance of getting back together. Im the same age as you, 22. Don't do the teenage thing, we're adults. Im not tryin' to be mean. The point of my background above is that you guys should have no more then very LC. The more you dip into what each other is doing, the more you will resent what that person did if you get back together. Im not kidding!!! Shes young, it seems a lot of girls that age go through this stage.

 

You're on good terms. Leave it that way. I know you dont want to give her up, you dont have to. But do your own thing for a while and if she asks why youre not calling or talking to her, tell her that you're doing your own thing for awhile.

 

Believe my background. Me and my ex gf have talked like 4 times since the 2nd breakup. Last time we talked we agreed we're not over each other yet. but also agreed we think our past is too beat up. It sucks bc its probably true. Dont let this happen in your situation.

[Mary3]

Well if all your games work for you and you get her back congratulations but at what cost ?

 

Do you think everything will be the same as when you both left it ?

 

Games show immaturity. You are not ready for whats right in your hands.

[XNemesisX]

The real problem here is the cycle factor.

 

Even if you two get back together I predict that this will happen all over again. Do you want to put yourself through any more of this bullshyt?

 

6 months or less from now (saying you get back together) you will end up dumped again. Who needs it?