fallenheart45 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 For a background story on this...go here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t66325/ Well tonight on my away message for AIM I said "running...then shower..then a movie!!! :-D Tonight I will offically see If I can fit into a 'C' cup, =-O wish me luck fººlz! ;-) DON'T even think about hitting the cell tonight, i won't answer!beeeeyaaatches!!!! ::cheers::" This meaning that I will try to fit into a bra from a girl that I met. And she knows about the girl So my ex girl texts me tonight saying " Sweet message...thats gross" WTF DOES SHE DO THIS! I am assuming that she is jealous and she doesnt' want me to be with anyone. Does it mean that she still cares? if she doesn't why does she do that. I am going NC for like 5 days...its helping...but then this happens...and bam.. NO FOOLIN...I bet you know what I am talking about... Please help all
shygurl Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Well regardless of what she wrote you for, it seems like a stupid 'away message' to me. Are you young or something? TO ADD: it would seem to me that you're trying to elicit a response or reaction from her by having this kind of 'away message' - otherwise, you'd have blocked her from your list. You trying to make her jealous? Don't play games.
Kat Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I haven't read your other posts but I would ignore your ex. It is obvious she can't handle the fact that you could have left her in your past
westernxer Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 You're right... she's jealous and wants to get a status report (on how miserable you are). Until she actually says something meaningful, like I love you or I want us to starting dating again, don't assume anything. Her message means nothing.
Mary3 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I dont know how old you are but I am going to guess no more than 13 years old. ? This whole AIM away message and then the texting....Why dont you just simply say : Away ? Are you trying to make her jealous. ? If you are trying to make her jealous ...I think you bombed.
Zaira Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Maybe she is puzzled at why you've left such a weird message. Would you normally say something like that?
Kat Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by ~Zaira~ Maybe she is puzzled at why you've left such a weird message. Would you normally say something like that? But it has nothing to do with her
Author fallenheart45 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 lol...i am 22....what I said in the away message is true...and I would normally say that.. She is the one who dumped. Me I tried everything to get her back. Now it seems that I might of found someone so she starts to text me that. If she doesn't care...THEN WHAT IN THE HELL DOES SHE TEXT ME??????????/
shygurl Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by fallenheart45 lol...i am 22....what I said in the away message is true...and I would normally say that.. She is the one who dumped. Me I tried everything to get her back. Now it seems that I might of found someone so she starts to text me that. If she doesn't care...THEN WHAT IN THE HELL DOES SHE TEXT ME??????????/ Why do you even care? She dumped you, right? So you might have found someone - good, great.......cut your ties with your ex and move on. Block her then delete her from your buddy list. There's no need for her to even see your 'away messages'.
Kat Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by fallenheart45 Now it seems that I might of found someone so she starts to text me that. haha most people always want what they can't have.
Kat Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by shygurl So you might have found someone - good, great.......cut your ties with your ex and move on. Block her then delete her from your buddy list. There's no need for her to even see your 'away messages'. I have to agree. You both sound like you are just baiting each other. You with your away msg knowing she will read them and her with her sms's. Sounds like you guys need to get over each other
Author fallenheart45 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 well this gril tried to kiss me tonight...but I stopped her and I said my heart belongs somewhere else....should I tell my ex this..and leave it at that?
shygurl Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by fallenheart45 well this gril tried to kiss me tonight...but I stopped her and I said my heart belongs somewhere else....should I tell my ex this..and leave it at that? She's your EX - why on earth should you or would you tell her about anything in your personal life, particularlly that which involves other women? It's none of her business. So let's be honest here - you want her back, right?
Zaira Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by shygurl So let's be honest here - you want her back, right? I thought that was obvious
Mary3 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Awhhh I see what you are doing. Arent you both broken up ? If you are , then playing games by making her jealous is just dumb. Seriously. Both of you need to get over each other. How can you kiss another girl with this baggage behind you ? If I went out with you, it would be over asap. I think you have a long road of recovery. Stop the contact. For starters...
Author fallenheart45 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Posted July 8, 2005 YES I DO..MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD.... should I tell her what happend tonight..even though I know she won't care..I would just feel better telling her my heart still belongs to her!
Mary3 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 You look alot smarter than you are acting. She and You are OVER so act like someone who is getting on with their life....geeez
Zaira Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by fallenheart45 YES I DO..MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD.... should I tell her what happend tonight..even though I know she won't care..I would just feel better telling her my heart still belongs to her! No. If she doesn't care, then what is the point of telling her? I am sure she knows how you feel. Let it be.
shygurl Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by fallenheart45 YES I DO..MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD.... should I tell her what happend tonight..even though I know she won't care..I would just feel better telling her my heart still belongs to her! No! You don't go telling her you went on a date with someone and that she tried to kiss you but you put a stop to it....all she'll think is that you're fickle and went from being with her to someone else right away. Besides, the main thing is: she's your ex at this time, you owe her no explanations whatsoever about what you do with any other girl, period. She lost the right to know this when she dumped you. And if you want her back more than anything in the world, change your away message to someone less antagonistic/less likely to make you look like a player.
Mary3 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 She owes you nothing and you nothing to her. Grow up and be a man. Leave a nice away message such as this : " Hi , even though I can be a pain , I should be back in about an hour , for those of you out there secretly reading my away message " Thanks
BrotherAaron Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by fallenheart45 YES I DO..MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD.... should I tell her what happend tonight..even though I know she won't care..I would just feel better telling her my heart still belongs to her! You will not feel better. You'll feel like a chump who just told someone something they didn't deserve to hear. It's too bad your missing out on this new girl because your heart 'belongs' to someone who doesn't deserve it anyway.
head/heels Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 dont even think of telling her that! that is just fuel for her fire! she is not into you but doesnt want you to have someone either....it is a funny thing that girls (and guys) sometimes do when they have low self esteem and are unsure in their own lives... SO HERE IS A SUMMATION OF WHAT TO DO FROM THIS POINT ON (believe me i have lived it for 10 months now and i am damn good) i dated someone for 4 years and was 1 month away from proposing to her and less than 2 days b4 i started my 1st year of medical school and she broke it off... i thought i would never get over it...but i have...so here is a good way (well the way i did it) I STOPPED CONTACT I MADE MYSELF A BETTER PERSON I WORKED OUT I ATE RIGHT I TRIED TO BE THERE FOR MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I PUT OTHERS FIRST I PUT MY PROFILE ON A DATING SITE I MET SOMEONE WHO IS COOL I TOLD HER I CANT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP AND WANTED TO BE FRIENDS HAVENT SPOKEN TO MY EX OR ANYONE WHO KNOWS HER THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL, and THIS MY FRIEND I AM DOING getting a new apt in the city i am going to medical school in, getting (hopefully) a 350Z to fly around in, and have put on 20 lbs of muscle in the last 9 months....so let her go, she is most definitely not the one, and learn something about yourself from it...i.e. what could you have done better....make yourself the best person you can...finally, let sleeping dogs lie.... block her, dont put up any away message that she can read and think it is secretly to her (bc we all know it was) and dont go out with other girls until you can at least kiss em without feeling guillty that is my .02$
head/heels Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 fallenheart, do you have your PM blocked, i tried to send you a private message but i think you have it turned off....no biggie if that is how you want it but i wanted to make sure you knew that.. PM me if you know how
lvgrly Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I think part of you wanted to see her jealous so she would come crawling back..And maybe her txting you was a small part of that. You might as well have just knocked on her door and said im going out tonight, and im going to try to fit into a c cup and walked away.. SOME women feed off of that. Its funny or a game to them. It made her jealous and I think thats what you wanted... As far as you telling your ex what you told the bra girl, I think you just want to get something started.. I think the only person who wants what they cant have here, is you. You seem to be playing the cards out to where it looks like her.. You set yourself up for a fall by putting that message up there, you pretty much asked for her to txt you about it, and thats what you wanted...
sanne Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 yea don't take this the wrong way but that message seems like you wanted to make her jealous and want you back. it probably won't work though, and will most likely backfire on you. my ex is too damn smart for that, and she'd see right through it if i tried to do anything like that. that's why i'm doing complete NC. i haven't blocked her sn or anything silly like that, i just haven't gone online whatsover in the past 3-4 days which is quite an impressive feat for myself. i find now that i don't even have the urge to go online to see what's she's up to anymore. NC is the only way you will ever get over an ex, trust me I sure as hell don't wanna know what my ex is up to or who she is seeing now or anything like that, which is why i have avoided any sort of contact whatsoever. And that includes anything where I could check up on her without actually talking to her.
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