plz help new user; does this girl like me or just as friends?

[matemizer]

Hey everyone,

My name is Matt, and i am a new user of this forum service.

I have an issue and hope that you all may be able to provide insight or advice.

 

So here's the deal;

there's this girl that i a have been sort-of friends with; I went to the same school as her; she was in 2 years below me, and i was in her sister's class. I wasn't much friends with either of them at school; but from an activity outside school; i became pretty good friends with both; moreso with sister cause see her more.

 

i used to see her once a week (this before she went to uni); and we'd get along pretty well. she was always pleased to see me.

Sometimes when we talking; conversation would die. Before; i was sort-of nervous talking with her. sometimes wouldn't talk to her cause not that much to talk about.

 

At beginning of the year she went to uni in another state and didn't see her for a while. Her sister told me it was her birthday the other day and she suggested that i send her an sms to say happy birthday. happened but no reply; her sister said that no one that sent her message did, no worries...

Now i became more confident; and when i saw her again; (cause she back for the holidays; she got off long flight only about an hour before i saw her); she was heaps pleased to see me. we got along well and i wasn't nervous at all.

 

then later in the day; she seemed not that interested. could've been that she was really tired.

i was sort-of clingy; waiting to talk to her; standing opposite whilst other people that hadn't seen her for a while were talking - me just in the background.

 

i was going to ask her out; but her mood didn't seem like a good thing to do.

Do you think that she doesn't like me, or just as a friend, or that she was just tired & that why she not so happy later at night.

 

should i ask her out? she is only here for another few weeks and then goes back to uni in other state.

 

i was thinking about asking for her email; but don't know how should ask for her it.

should i do it over the phone, see if she will come out with me first, to see if any interest?

 

 

i was reading some of her non-verbal signs; she was mirroring what i did; her pupils were relatively dilated, and her foot was pointed to me when she was talking to others.

this means something doesn't it?

 

other non-verbal things that i am unsure about;

sitting down in rows; she was in the one infront of me; (cause i went to say hello to her). when she was sitting infront of me; she was parting hair to one side; revealing her neck.

also; at some points whilst we were talking; she would subconsciously scratch her head. what does this mean?

 

i really like this girl; do i possibly have a chance or should i cut my losses & move-on.

 

thanks heaps for your help,

any advice or info will be greatly appreciated,

 

- Matt -

[BrotherAaron]

Originally posted by matemizer

i really like this girl; do i possibly have a chance or should i cut my losses & move-on.

 

The only way to cut your losses is to ask her out. If you move on, your maximizing your losses, as you have no chance with a woman you give up on before even trying.

[SassyBug]

Try not to read too much into her body language! The fact that you are trying to notice these things will make both you appear nervous and that can make her nervous

 

she'll pick up on those vibes

 

no harm in asking for the email!!!

 

just RELLLLAAAAAAAXXXXX

 

take a deep breath

 

and give her a call

 

you won't know unless you ask her what the answer will be

 

don't be so nervous, k'?

 

good luck

[matemizer]

thanks for your advice guys.

it is really appreciated. I am trying to improve on asking girls out; especially this one!. i think it more of a psychological problem cause of the nervousness experienced in the past with her. how do you think i could get over it? just by asking her; and trying to be as confident as possible?

It is strange that i only get really nervous when talking with her; (maybe cause i like her heaps) cause when when am talking to the other girls that i like/am friends with, i am fine; but this girl is special.

 

I think you were right about the vibes thing SassyBug; cause i can feel them too sometimes. sometimes the butterflies get into stomach; and screw it up; and then act nervous which is not good.

 

So should i ignore the non-verbal signals all-together?

 

what about ideas to keep the conversations flowing and interesting?

don't want to bore her talking about things she is not interested in.

 

once again thanks for your help guys...