Corry9977 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Hello, So last Friday this girl reached out to me on the dating app I'm using. We talked for a while and it really seemed like she was interested in me (she liked my personality, thought I was handsome etc.). Eventually I asked her out on a date but I didn't hear from her until Tuesday this week. She apologized and told me she was busy with school and work but wanted to go out with me and even gave me her phone number and said I could text her. About an hour later I sent her a text with some days we could go out. It's now Friday and I haven't heard back from her. She hasn't logged in to the dating app since we last talked and didn't read my last message so I don't think she's ignoring it. We also both have iphones and it said she hasn't read it yet (I'm 99.9% sure she didn't give me a fake number by the way). So my question is, should I wait for her to reply or should I try contacting her again? I'm looking forward to meeting her and she seemed eager to meet me as well but it's been 3 days and I'm kind of nervous. I don't think she would just up and ignore me because she seemed interested in me and she did seem legitimately busy, but then again we just barely met. I just don't want to come off as pushy or impatient by contacting her again too soon. And if I do contact her again, should I send another text or just call? She didn't say in the message to give her a call so I'm not sure if that's the right course of action. Any advice would be helpful, thanks!
Redhead14 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Hello, So last Friday this girl reached out to me on the dating app I'm using. We talked for a while and it really seemed like she was interested in me (she liked my personality, thought I was handsome etc.). Eventually I asked her out on a date but I didn't hear from her until Tuesday this week. She apologized and told me she was busy with school and work but wanted to go out with me and even gave me her phone number and said I could text her. About an hour later I sent her a text with some days we could go out. It's now Friday and I haven't heard back from her. She hasn't logged in to the dating app since we last talked and didn't read my last message so I don't think she's ignoring it. We also both have iphones and it said she hasn't read it yet (I'm 99.9% sure she didn't give me a fake number by the way). So my question is, should I wait for her to reply or should I try contacting her again? I'm looking forward to meeting her and she seemed eager to meet me as well but it's been 3 days and I'm kind of nervous. I don't think she would just up and ignore me because she seemed interested in me and she did seem legitimately busy, but then again we just barely met. I just don't want to come off as pushy or impatient by contacting her again too soon. And if I do contact her again, should I send another text or just call? She didn't say in the message to give her a call so I'm not sure if that's the right course of action. Any advice would be helpful, thanks! You should confirm any dates at least a day before. You take the lead for a few dates and then observe whether she does some initiating. Call her to confirm and have a little ice breaker chit chat before the meet up. And, the first time you meet from OLD, it's a short meet up -- couple of drinks, appetizers maybe to evaluate whether or not there is enough there to want a "real" date. You don't spend a lot of money on this meet up. If you decide you want a real date with her, make a date with her towards the end of the meet up.
7675 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Look man. To be perfectly honest with you, I'd stay away from girls like this. There's a great piece of advice that often we don't like to hear "When a person likes you or is interested in you, they'll make an effort to see you or atleast communicate with you" She's letting days go by without responding. NOBODY is that busy. Atleast she would tell you that she's currently swamped and give you a day when she might be available
metaltrees Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Interactions with women are like a game of tennis. You've already hit the ball over the net, so no matter how nervous you get, or how painful it may be, you have to wait for her to respond. In the meantime, walk away and never look back. Keep circulating and meeting new people. If she never gets in touch again then you're lucky you discovered her flaky personality this early. Imagine this behaviour after a 3rd or 4th date.
Grey40 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 This is the problem with investing too much time with OLD. There are so many time wasters on there. I think it's 100% crucial to cut to the chase and ask her out for a date or get her number within the first few messages. No amount of talking online is going to suddenly make her more interested. If she's interested in actually meeting up, she'll agree pretty quickly. Otherwise, she's most likely on the app for other reasons (boredom, ego boost) or she isn't interested in you specifically. Cut to the chase. Better to know before you spend a week or so getting to know her via texting/messaging for her to not ever plan on seeing you in person. It's happened to me before, and I've learned my lesson.
Author Corry9977 Posted October 1, 2016 Author Posted October 1, 2016 This is the problem with investing too much time with OLD. There are so many time wasters on there. I think it's 100% crucial to cut to the chase and ask her out for a date or get her number within the first few messages. No amount of talking online is going to suddenly make her more interested. If she's interested in actually meeting up, she'll agree pretty quickly. Otherwise, she's most likely on the app for other reasons (boredom, ego boost) or she isn't interested in you specifically. Cut to the chase. Better to know before you spend a week or so getting to know her via texting/messaging for her to not ever plan on seeing you in person. It's happened to me before, and I've learned my lesson. Well that's the thing, I did ask her out on a date and she said yes, I just don't know if me sending another follow-up text will do any good. I don't know enough about her to know if she's flaky or if she is just a bad texter or something, I know I sometimes don't respond to texts immediately either but 3 days seems like pushing it to me. She seemed interested in me but if she hasn't logged on to the app or check her phone then I'm not sure what to believe, at least we haven't started dating or anything yet so I can keep looking I guess.
Gaeta Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 If she were really interested in you she'd be checking her phone. My guess is she has several prospects and you are not on top of the list. Don't waste your time and find someone interested enough to look forward to your messages.
Grey40 Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 Yeah, don't waste time chasing her at this point. You set it up and 3 days just isn't normal if she was interested. You could always ask her what happened but she probably won't reply, or she'll apologize and pull the same crap. Plenty of women out there who will meet up with you. No need to keep beating a dead horse
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 OP set an expectation for your self....if you don't hear from them in a timely manner, ditch them and move on. You "wait" for no one.
angel.eyes Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 Early on, give the person the benefit of the doubt and give her a second chance, especially when making assumptions about communication patterns, etc. It's unlikely, but possible the text didn't go through. Wait a couple more days, then call her. Try to get a concrete date and time set up on the call. If you can't, walk away. If you secure a date, then see how things go on the date. Let us know how things turn out.
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