Coup La-La Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 I met a girl on online dating last week, we've only been on 2 dates so far and I think I'm really falling for her. When we're together it's like time just floats by, 9 hours feels like 20 minutes. I really like her, to a level I've never liked a woman before, especially after such a short amount of time. On the bus ride to work today I found myself writing out what her first name with my last name would look like. After our 2nd date last night we were have a long text conversation (about 2 hours) and when she went on a long string of compliments I said outright "I really like you and that doesn't happen often", she replied with lots and lots of compliments of how great I am and how much fun I am to speak to, but she didn't say anything about how she felt about me emotionally. Should I be right to be paranoid that I went to far too fast? I really don't want to scare her off.
NCmav Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 I met a girl on online dating last week, we've only been on 2 dates so far and I think I'm really falling for her. When we're together it's like time just floats by, 9 hours feels like 20 minutes. I really like her, to a level I've never liked a woman before, especially after such a short amount of time. On the bus ride to work today I found myself writing out what her first name with my last name would look like. After our 2nd date last night we were have a long text conversation (about 2 hours) and when she went on a long string of compliments I said outright "I really like you and that doesn't happen often", she replied with lots and lots of compliments of how great I am and how much fun I am to speak to, but she didn't say anything about how she felt about me emotionally. Should I be right to be paranoid that I went to far too fast? I really don't want to scare her off. As long as you didn't tell her you were falling already I don't see the issue. Play it cool, let her come to you a bit. Sounds like you have something good!
metaltrees Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 You seem to be getting hung up on this girl way too quickly, and whether you tell her or not this is going to come through in your behaviour around her and possibly scare her off. Try to focus on other things instead of thinking about her all the time. 2 dates is a VERY short amount of time. Women need more time than men to fully warm to the idea of a relationship in my experience. Just date her. Make sure you show her an amazing time each time you go out. When she's fully emotionally invested in you she'll let you know. Until then that's all you have to do.
Grey40 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 How old are you? 15? Nothing wrong with having strong feelings, and there's no reason at all you should be scared. What are you afraid of? Confessing your feelings or being too forward about being in love is the only thing that's going to scare her off. Keep your mouth shut and just keep doing what you've been doing for now
katiegrl Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 (edited) On the bus ride to work today I found myself writing out what her first name with my last name would look like. Serious question but is this a same sex relationship (lesbian)? Or are you very young, like in your teens? The last time I did what's quoted was when I was 16 and I am female. I don't know of any men who would do this. Just sayin. Chill out, it's only been TWO dates. Edited October 1, 2016 by katiegrl
Grey40 Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 Serious question but is this a same sex relationship (lesbian)? Or are you very young, like in your teens? The last time I did what's quoted was when I was 16. Just sayin. Chill out, it's only been TWO dates. I don't see how same sex or not factors into it, let that be kept personal it's really not relevant to the discussion.
katiegrl Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 I don't see how same sex or not factors into it, let that be kept personal it's really not relevant to the discussion. Okay fair enough about the same sex (although it's possible and would change my opinion)... but I DO think it's relevant in that he's going way overboard here and he needs to chill. Again, it's only been two dates.
basil67 Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 Telling her that you really like her isn't going to fast. As for the rest of your feelings, you need to keep reminding yourself that this is infatuation - not love. You don't know her well enough for it to be anything more yet. Enjoy the ride. It may well turn into something good, but don't have any expectations of her or the relationship until you've been together for a good six months or more.
Redhead14 Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 I met a girl on online dating last week, we've only been on 2 dates so far and I think I'm really falling for her. When we're together it's like time just floats by, 9 hours feels like 20 minutes. I really like her, to a level I've never liked a woman before, especially after such a short amount of time. On the bus ride to work today I found myself writing out what her first name with my last name would look like. After our 2nd date last night we were have a long text conversation (about 2 hours) and when she went on a long string of compliments I said outright "I really like you and that doesn't happen often", she replied with lots and lots of compliments of how great I am and how much fun I am to speak to, but she didn't say anything about how she felt about me emotionally. Should I be right to be paranoid that I went to far too fast? I really don't want to scare her off. Relax and manage your emotions. It's ok to have strong feelings but you need to keep them in check and be able to remain objective and observe her with a clear head and not get too far ahead of yourself. Your fears are what will actually sabotage this. What could happen is not so much about scaring her off, you'll actually scare yourself off. In other words, you'll be so overwhelmed that you will pull away from her . . . balance, patience, confidence and objectivity are key. Sit back and relax a little. Enjoy the time you spend with her, listen, share communicate. At this moment, it doesn't appear that there's anything to worry about. You've said what you've said and that's OK. She responded positively. And, now that you've said it, let it sit for a bit. Don't keep pushing it or her. Chill, dude. It's very early. Have you asked her for a 3rd date yet? You should do that soon and keep in touch with her in between dates. Not a million initiated texts or calls, just a few here and there and let her do some 1
Popsicle Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 I think it's fine, even great and I wish you much luck!
Author Coup La-La Posted October 1, 2016 Author Posted October 1, 2016 Okay fair enough about the same sex (although it's possible and would change my opinion)... but I DO think it's relevant in that he's going way overboard here and he needs to chill. Again, it's only been two dates. Yeah, that's the thing that's scary about it. I've never been like this before, in my whole life whenever girls I've date have talked about marriage I immediately changed the subject and looked for ways to avoid the topic of conversation. When I was a teenager I never wrote out girl's names with my own, so for me to find myself doing it as a grown man could be cause for concern I'm not an alpha male but I'm not Richard Simmons either.
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