J dub Posted July 28, 2005 Posted July 28, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer Have you been reading The Player's Guide on askmen.com?? The "high interest level" comments REEK of that crap. I was TOTALLY thinking the same exact thing. This dude seems to think women owe him for his time/money. Dating is about having fun, learning and sharing, not speeding thru the lanes like a lunatic to get to the goal. BUT to his credit I will say it sounds like he is getting the hang of it.
Author Rhythm28 Posted July 28, 2005 Author Posted July 28, 2005 NO woman owes me anything at the end of the night. BUT I do owe to myself to find out if she's stringing me along or into me. At the end of the first date I could tell she was really into me, so why rush things? Everything comes in due time. Had all our dates after that been the same, I would have waited until the time was right for the both of us. On our second date she became quiet and froze up. I asked her what was wrong and she said nothing but I knew something was up. By the third date she confessed that the reason she came to Chicago from NYC was to leave a past relationship behind. She even went as far as to tell me how they met! At that point, I knew I was dead in the water. I dropped her off and we both agreed that now is not a good time for us to see each other. My point is this: I got to the truth real quick. People can only hide their baggage for so long. She was no different. I could have continued to see her and I would have become her friend/counselor. No thanks. She would not looked at me the same as she did on our first date. So now I've walked away and she's following me around.
Author Rhythm28 Posted August 2, 2005 Author Posted August 2, 2005 So I see her at work yesterday. I went on break and wouldn't you know it, there she is having lunch. I sit down we talk a little bit and she tells me she's dropping down to part-time status. Gonna look for a new job in the hotel industry. I tell her to look on monster.com and careerbuilder.com. She asks if I have internet access and I say yeah. Then she asks if she can come over and use it! Her roommate has a laptop with internet access. Go figure. She texts me last night at around 11:15 p.m. (She was thinking about me, nice!) I text her back this morning and she texts me again wondering if she can come over tonight. I tell her, "I have a meeting with my sister at 8 but you can come over later. IF tonight doesn't work, then maybe tomorrow?" THEN she texts me back with "Tomorrow I have a meeting with my brother. Thank you anyway." (Her brother lives in Colombia!) What the hell? I think she assumed I was blowing her off for another date with someone else. I then text her back "When I meant later, I didn't mean 11 or 12." She then texts me back with "Some other time." It was her idea then she blows me off when I tell her I have something to do and I counter-offered. What is up with her? Man!
clandestinidad Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Yeah, I guess she felt rejected.....but really, she seems awfully immature. Although, maybe she intended it to sound sarcastic/funny, rather than rude. Like more of a 'im so cute, nudge nudge, and hahaha' Anyway, I dont know what her deal is....but if you dont like her games, dont play along
Author Rhythm28 Posted August 16, 2005 Author Posted August 16, 2005 Haven't posted in a while but I know my topic created a big stir. Saw her at work last Monday and she told me she was leaving for Florida. DAMN! Had to scramble and I asked her out again. She said no because it created too much confusion. I texted her back with, "You like me. I know you do. You're afraid your past will scare me away." She called me, went out that night and talked but nothing heavy or serious. Went out again this past Friday and we kissed! Finally. OK she's gonna stay I thought. We even talked of having her move in because she needed a place to stay. I saw her again today. Had lunch and then she got a call from a hotel she applied to in Florida. She said she was leaving again! Damn! We get back to my place and we had a long talk. Turns out her ex is down there! Nice. Knew it all along. I asked her to stay and she said no. I told her she was confused and she said she was. I held her hand and told her I didn't want her to go but I had to so she could see what was gonna happen down there. We finally get out of the car and we kiss again! After saying she was gonna go she kissed me. She fought it and I didn't really want to come on to her so we stopped. There's more to the conversation but I don't remember much other than telling her that I wouldn't beg but she was worth it wether she knew it or not. I told her if she was to come back, she was coming back for good and before I left I told her that that wouldn't be the last time we kissed. So that's how it turned out. Maybe for the best. Part of me hopes I never see or hear from her again. I'm OK with it but we've agreed to not see each other anymore and she came back with a provocative text message. If she does come back, I want it to be forever.
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