RecentChange Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 (edited) Gaeta, All men are pigs, or dogs choose whichever works for you. I disagree. Over the years I have known a number of guys who have more female than male friends. They are just "different" in a sense. I don't know if I want to call them feminine, but they socialize differently and fit into different social circles. I have a good friend Chris. We have been friends for 23 years now (since I was 15). He has never ever ever tried to make a move of any kind. We have gone through years where both of us were single, one single one not, or both coupled - never changed the way we treated each other in the slightest. We have traveled together, partied together, done all sorts of things - and set each other up with our friends. But "us"? Never ever. Not something either of us desires. My husband really likes him, thinks he is smart and fun - as most people do. I will accept he may be an exception to the rule, but as a self proclaimed Tom boy, I can tell you. I have had many male friends and not all of them wanted to bang me. F' my friends? Sure, but I have been behind the scenes in the "boys club" and you simply cannot generalize to this degree. Maybe YOU are a pig. But really, not all men are. It may feel easier to navigate life with black ans white absolutes, but life is not that simple. Edited October 1, 2016 by RecentChange 1
phineas Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 I have had some kind of sex with most of my female friends. They always tell the BF we are 100% platonic so he doesn't give them crap when they call me or want to grab lunch one day. The OP's GF taking selfies with her "guy friend" in such a way that her friends can see the chemistry between them is very telling. The whole thing is disrespectful to her relationship. Most women I have met are not cool with their man having close female friends. They talk a good game, especially when they are the ones with opposite sex friends, but the moment a female friend starts calling me, sending me messages on Facebook, or trying to get together one day, the lady friend is not pleased. This 100% I've never given my lady friends BF's a reason to even think something is going on and I accept them 100% as long as they arn't d-bags. Sometimes, they do confide in me the problems they are having with my female friends with dating and when things get rocky or they break up and we talk later i just tell them "now you see why I won't date her and choose to be just friends" And they do. What really cracks me up is some of my female friends don't like it when I hang out with other female friends. LOL! 1
Gaeta Posted October 1, 2016 Posted October 1, 2016 No, we're passed getting-to-know phase. We're more in the fitting each other in our seperate lives phase. We both stay at the same student accomodation, so we've seen each other a lot over the passed months. They've known each other for 10 years or so (this was also mentioned in the comments from the post). They're from the same hometown, went to highschool together. I doubt they ever dated. Im probably her first serious BF. But I saw another pic of the two of them posted a month before we started dating, and the same person also commented about how close they seem. At 6-7-8 months dating you will still be learning new things about her. Each disagreement you'll learn about her. Now you are coming across this friends-of-opposite-sex issue and you are learning still about her, her boundaries, her compromising, her problem solving skills. I don't remember you said your age but you are talking about being on campus so I imagine you are both early 20s. She has known him since 10 years that makes him almost a childhood friend or a high school friend. Those are different friendships than the ones you make in adulthood. When you've know someone for this much time they're like siblings. Don't you think if they were interested in each other in that way they would have act on it by now? 1
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