Angel29 Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 I went to an afternoon bar to catch up with a friend. I helped myself to some water as the queues were too long at the bar. Then this waiter came over quickly and filled a bottle of water and came over to my table and said "I have got you some water so you don't have to get any again". He kept smiling at me and then was hovering around. I went to the toilet and my friend said he came over and looked like he was looking for me. The second time I came back from the toilet I caught him looking at me and smiling, he seemed shy. I am a shy person and usually avoid eye contact but I smiled and he smiled back. My friend asked if I wanted to speak to him but I didn't feel confident and left the venue. I don't know if he was interested or just being friendly? Now I'm wondering if I should have spoke to him before I left? 1
JewelD Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 He may have just been working for a tip. Hard to tell with waiters sometimes. 1
Satu Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 Insufficient data. Go there again. Alone Take care. 2
Shanex Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Either the tip bonus, or he was being genuinely friendly and interested. Overcome your shyness and say something nice to him, then see how things goes. Usually I don't recommend guys to hit on waitress or barmaid because they are overwhelmed, but you're a lady and have your chance. Though if say waiter is very hot, odds are that he gets hit on a bit by the women too. 1
preraph Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Who cares if HE was interested or not. You are, so go back and go up to him and go, HEY, you're the guy who got me some water last time I was here. How are you doing? By the way, I'm [name]. 2
smudge21 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Hmm, if this was the other way round - male asking about female waitress - then the advice would be to remind that she was working and just being polite as it's her job to do so, so don't think too much about it. The idea of telling a guy to rush back there and ask her out would be such a bad idea, here though it seems it's okay for the girl to start chatting up the waiter. Surely the situation is the same - this guy was working and probably used to being friendly to ensure a good tip. He's no doubt also trained to do so and meets hundreds of people each week. However, all that said, I still believe that people come together in any situation and even if the waiter or waitress is working, they're still human beings with desires and needs, possibly looking for love. So my advice is the same I'd give to a guy asking about a waitress - next time you go back with friends, try to make a conversation. See how they are from more than just a few words or odd looks. Keep in mind, that it would probably be against the rules for him to give out his number to customers, so you may have to take the lead there if it appears he is interested.
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Bartenders aren't generally shy... I would think he was at work, looking to make you happy as a customer and get a good tip.. heck do that 30 times a day and he gets and extra hundred bucks in his pocket.. Is he interested.. who really knows.. he might bang a different customer each night or go home to a GF.. I think unless he hits on you and gives you his number then he was only working...
basil67 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 His job is to be friendly and meet the customer's needs. Nothing more, nothing less.
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