DM_Anna Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 The shy girl has asked about my background through her manager etc. Why doesn't she ask herself? I think you've pretty much answered your own question lol. Have you thought about approaching her and starting a conversation? Sometimes people just don't know how to initiate a conversation without feeling or sounding like it's staged. Go get her tiger!
Author abramov Posted October 2, 2016 Author Posted October 2, 2016 I think you've pretty much answered your own question lol. Have you thought about approaching her and starting a conversation? Sometimes people just don't know how to initiate a conversation without feeling or sounding like it's staged. Go get her tiger! I talked to her a few times, but it seems like we just don't click. So I think it's better to give it up so that I won't feel bad about it.
Author abramov Posted October 2, 2016 Author Posted October 2, 2016 Maybe. I have no way of knowing for sure. It's like what Smackie says though, that getting to know people, friends or lovers, shouldn't be this difficult. Two people should want to become friends and more. They should both want the same thing. If one is shy or distant, then you have to wonder why and if it's worth the hassle. Relationships should start on a good strong foundation, where the people involved clearly want each other. The problems can come later, but if the foundation is strong, then it can last through the bad times. A weak start and you'll have a weak relationship. So maybe you are being played, but maybe not. The fact is, this isn't a good start for something serious. I see your point. If in doubt, it is best not to proceed. Despite the eye contact from her, warm smiles, the fact that we're at a loss of words when we speak to each other is discouraging. If you read one of my recent posts, I did bring up the idea of giving it up altogether. In this case, I think that she is interested but too awkward, inexperienced, unskilled, etc. I have noticed that with other people as well, she takes a really long time to even feel comfortable talking more often. Even when she does talk, it is really brief and it is often not something that creates a prolonged conversation. This reminds me of the time when I was in high school. I was often dragged down by my overly strong shyness. Here it seems the costs outweigh the benefits. In any relationship (platonic, romantic), there is no point of forcing things to work if they don't occur naturally. How could you have a good time with each other when there is an awkward silence all the time?
Spikiera Posted October 2, 2016 Posted October 2, 2016 The shy girl has asked about my background through her manager etc. Why doesn't she ask herself? Because she's shy
Author abramov Posted October 2, 2016 Author Posted October 2, 2016 Inspired by a true story (one of my female HS friends was really shy).... If a girl is so shy and intimidated that she can't even say "Hi" to her crush even after he has greeted her and attempted to start a conversation with her a few times, then the guy might as well not consider her for a relationship because it's not worth the hassle? This shy girl always resorts to using her friends to send hints to a guy. In my opinion, it is stupid because it unnecessarily complicates the situation. Your thoughts, ideas?
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 Ever consider maybe it was the friend and not the shy girl who was actually interested in you?
SwordofFlame Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 Well do you think she's worth the hassle? Is she really attractive? Do you have no better options?
basil67 Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 First rule of dating: if you don't click or can't read the other, walk away. 2
Author abramov Posted October 3, 2016 Author Posted October 3, 2016 Ever consider maybe it was the friend and not the shy girl who was actually interested in you? The shy girl's friend is already married and is a few years older than me. So I am too young for the shy girl's friend.
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