tinkerbell16 Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 I am surprised I am feeling this way. Divorced almost 2 years now and dating a great guy. He has slipped a few times and spoke in terms of "forever" even though we've dated only 6 mos. It's not something I saw happening again but now I think it is possible/desired even though I am comfortable in my life as a single lady and pretty much vowed to not get married again. It's in a look he may give, or an act of kindness. It feels so comfortable and good. No anxiety no stress. We have similar values, beliefs, family structure. Just curious of your stories of how you knew the person you were dating was going to be the one you married?
sunshine2 Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 I've been divorced for almost 6 years and have been dating for 4 years now. I had 2 LTR's, one for 19 months and the other for 12. Even though I did like the companionship and liked both of them, I have yet to feel that feeling that they were the "one". I also have decided never to get married again. I've done it twice and just feel a bit jaded about "forever". I think you will know when you know. 1
Shanex Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 I thought it happened to me once, and my only LTR to date (16months). Long story short, met online too, incredible chemistry. We went intimate soon enough, texted, called, Skype everyday. Seeing each other on weekends doing tons of cool stuffs. We reciprocated, we smiled, joked, chatted endlessly... and then even sleeping over in the middle of the week. She was the one, but she wasn't when she eventually met someone else. We were about to move in. I never put as much energy as with her, for getting dumped for another dude. Made me tired of dating for a bit and willing to hookup carelessly for a while. 1
RecentChange Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 I knew he was “the one” right away, within the first month perhaps. We were young, and crazy, he said “I love you” about 6 weeks in. I wasn’t looking for “the one” – I had honestly never contemplated marriage, or even finding a life partner. I has having fun casually dating, I enjoyed being independent and had planned to stick to that for a while. But, sometimes its almost as if life doesn’t give you choices. I felt at home with him immediately. Suddenly I had a new best friend. We clicked on so many levels, similar outlooks on life, goals, religion (or lack thereof), and most of all, we have so much fun together, and understand each other in ways that others never have. As soon as I graduated college (7 months after we met) we moved in together. This Halloween will mark 15 years since I met him at that faithful costume party so many years ago. 2
Author tinkerbell16 Posted September 30, 2016 Author Posted September 30, 2016 I knew he was “the one” right away, within the first month perhaps. We were young, and crazy, he said “I love you” about 6 weeks in. I wasn’t looking for “the one” – I had honestly never contemplated marriage, or even finding a life partner. I has having fun casually dating, I enjoyed being independent and had planned to stick to that for a while. But, sometimes its almost as if life doesn’t give you choices. I felt at home with him immediately. Suddenly I had a new best friend. We clicked on so many levels, similar outlooks on life, goals, religion (or lack thereof), and most of all, we have so much fun together, and understand each other in ways that others never have. As soon as I graduated college (7 months after we met) we moved in together. This Halloween will mark 15 years since I met him at that faithful costume party so many years ago. That's awesome. I know what you mean by almost like you don't have a choice... it's exactly how I feel. Like something bigger than us in motion. It's terrifying and comfortable at the same time.
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