Anoniem Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 Hello everybody, It's been a long time since I posted anything on this forum, and my relationship has been going really good. I love my girlfriend to death and she me. We've been talking about marrying and moving in together, but that hasn't been easy since she's Turkish and her parents don't approve of me (but that's a story for a different time). Recently though we've hit a little bump in the road. She told me that she knows I love her, but that when we're together and we kiss and hug and stuff, that she doesn't feel like I love her. That I don't hug her because I want to hug her, but that I do it merely out of habit, which isn't true at all. I'm still madly in love with her and everytime I hug her it's because I love her so much... I just don't know how to make her see or feel that, because I really love her alot, and the fact that she doesn't feel that makes me stress out a little bit. Any advice about this situation or people (maybe even women) who've experienced this kind of situation before? Thanks in advance! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 My guess is that she's projecting her own feelings on to you. If you're generally an affectionate guy then that's my best guess. She's confused about why she herself is feeling less enthusiastic, and not even realizing she's putting the "blame" on you. How's the relationship been going lately? 4
Satu Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 I think ExpatInItaly is probably right here. Her perception of you is very paradoxical: "She told me that she knows I love her, but that when we're together and we kiss and hug and stuff, that she doesn't feel like I love her." If you are demonstrating your love in a clear way, the problem is with her perception. I'm not sure where you go from there, but talking about it might help. Take care. 2
Gaeta Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 My guess is that she's projecting her own feelings on to you. If you're generally an affectionate guy then that's my best guess. She's confused about why she herself is feeling less enthusiastic, and not even realizing she's putting the "blame" on you. How's the relationship been going lately? Exactly that. It's her feelings that are changing and for now she identifies that as yours changing. She is not aware of it yet. It might be a good thing to re-direct her next time she speaks about it. Tell her your feelings have not changed and she may want to look within herself to explain why she feels so uneasy. I imagine she gets a lot of pressure from her family and it's wearing her down and it's starting to affect her feelings toward you. 1
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