Sincerly-KK Posted September 28, 2016 Posted September 28, 2016 So my birthday is coming up and I wanted to plan a small trip for me and my husband, the thing is one of his friends baby shower is the same day of my birthday, so he said I was looking forward to going to my friends baby shower and got kinda mad at me because I requested that we should have a small getaway over the weekend, after he said all his bad comments then he said I would just cancel on my friend and Mail her a gift....guys am I being petty for feeling upset ?
amaysngrace Posted September 28, 2016 Posted September 28, 2016 I think having a baby is kind of a big deal and it's bigger than a birthday once you're an adult. Can't you plan a getaway for the following weekend? 1
Author Sincerly-KK Posted September 28, 2016 Author Posted September 28, 2016 I took vacation around my birthday so it probably wouldn't happen until my next vacation
ShatteredLady Posted September 28, 2016 Posted September 28, 2016 Is it a 'special' big birthday? If not, a close friends baby is more of an occasion. Unusual for a man to be into a baby shower!?!? Is it his best friend or best friends wife? Do you have any issues with her?? Most baby showers don't really involve men (or is that a cultural thing?) Can you change your vacation days or is your work not like that? Is he being passive aggressive saying that you guys should go & post the gift (why not drop it in another day?) or is the type to let it drop & have a great weekend regardless? How long have you been married? In a lifetime there will be many times that plans clash...maybe communication/compromise needs to be worked on? On the surface this doesn't seem like a big deal. Are there underlying issues that you're not mentioning? 2
Author Sincerly-KK Posted September 28, 2016 Author Posted September 28, 2016 Well it's not his bestfriend it's an old friend from J.R high school, she did invited to the baby shower but he said he would rather go by himself being that I wouldn't know nobody at the babyshower, I wish I could do it another time but my job doesn't work like that, if I request vacation at a certain time then I just have too take it.
NTV Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 It sounds to me like you're ruining your own birthday surprise here....
Lois_Griffin Posted September 29, 2016 Posted September 29, 2016 So my birthday is coming up and I wanted to plan a small trip for me and my husband, the thing is one of his friends baby shower is the same day of my birthday, so he said I was looking forward to going to my friends baby shower and got kinda mad at me because I requested that we should have a small getaway over the weekend, after he said all his bad comments then he said I would just cancel on my friend and Mail her a gift....guys am I being petty for feeling upset ? Men go to baby showers? Seriously? Is he actually going sit around and "ooh and ahhhh" at every box of diapers, every rattle, and every bib she unwraps? This is hysterical. Quite honestly, it sounds like your boyfriend is using this incredibly lame excuse to get out of doing a weekend away for your birthday. 1
Cinnamonstix Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Seems like I am going to be unpopular here but I think it's more important for a husband to celebrate his wife's birthday than play pin the bow on an old preggo friend's belly - a historically all-female tradition. What's the rest of your relationship like? 1
ChickiePops Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Unless it's an emergency, wife should always trump friend. Also, why wouldn't he want to bring you to the party?
LastAcorn99 Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 Aww…I can understand your disappointment. Was your husband aware of your planning this trip from before the baby shower thing came up?
Mr. Lucky Posted September 30, 2016 Posted September 30, 2016 What's the rest of your relationship like? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/596418-im-starting-dislike-my-husband Similarly challenged... Mr. Lucky
usa1ah Posted October 3, 2016 Posted October 3, 2016 And why is going to a baby shower by him self???? Really, this is so odd I don't know what to say. Spouse comes first, end of story. If not there are more problems then you realize.
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