This text meant to be a jab, or being overly sensitive?

[DoingItWell11]

Met this guy on a dating app, been dating almost 2 months, have been intimate and are sexually exclusive. Said he's been cheated on and would never cheat/wouldn't want to be the source of someone's pain. Told me a girl hit on him (in person) and asked me the best way to reject her as he said he wasn't interested and he is dating me.

 

I posted about him before, and through the help of some of you, we think he's a reddit user (push/pull tactics in an article to keep women interested and engaged)

 

 

We hung out friday night and went out to dinner then back to my place. Saturday he volunteered to drive me to my parent's home as I was going home for the day to visit. He briefly met my mother at the door, but it was basically a "hi" wave and leave as he rang the bell returning something I forgot in his car.

 

Sunday, he texted me to come over in the early evening. When i was there he apologized for not coming in or talking more to my mom and said "next time". I told him it was no big deal, as he was just returning something I forgot.

 

I could only spend a few hours Sunday/did not spend the night. He did tell me he went to a strip club Saturday night as one of his buddies (lets call him D) recently broke up with his gf. D was really bugging the guy i'm dating and his other roommate (let's call him M) to go out. THe guy I'm dating and M really just wanted to stay in and play video games but D was super upset and kept trying to get them to go out. Finally they all went together.

 

The guy I'm dating said touching wasn't allowed. He didn't touch any girls, or buy any sort of "service". It was basically distracting/consoling his friend who recently broke up. He also invited me to go with him if he ever goes again as he thinks it could be a fun "couple" activity. I wasn't really mad about this, I just found it shocking and was trying to digest this info/asking a lot of questions.

 

I asked if this is some place he'd go if he was bored or make it a regular thing. He assured me no and it was just bc his friend D was so upset. D almost cried in the strip club apparently.

 

Overall Sunday hangout was great. We cooked, talked, were intimate, watched TV, star gazed, etc until I had to leave. He made extra food and packed some for me to take home. I overall felt good/happy about the night.

 

I sent him a text when I got home saying it was good to see him and thanking him again for the food/gnight. He responded "night :-*"

 

Here is where idk if i'm reading too much into things. Monday and Tuesday he works LONG shifts and doesn't get out until the night. I also have classes Monday and Tuesday night so I'm busy after work/can't use my phone.

 

Monday: I texted a pic of the meal he made as I was eating it for lunch saying it tasted great. He said it looked good and asked what other sides I added to it. I responded and then that was the end of contact for the day. ( Nothing weird to me, just would have been nice if he called or texted later knowing I had class/ I would eventually be able to get back to him)

 

Tuesday: I texted him a funny picture/meme that I found. I wrote "this reminds me of ___ that told me about". He responded "haha have some spare time today?"

 

^ My first reaction was that of a snub, like what are you sending me this? Don't you have anything better to do?

 

I just responded that it was in the feed of one of my social media accounts. Again, no more contact for the day.

 

We have plans to hang out tomorrow/ticketed event. I'm planning on texting in the AM just to confirm our meeting time.

 

Is it weird Monday/Tuesday contact was so minimal? Did his Tuesday text seem like a snub? Or just reading into it?

 

^ All these questions bc of his push/pull nature.

[JewelD]

I think you're oversensitive about the wrong thing. That text wasn't really a snub but if he didn't find it humorous or interesting, what is there to say?

 

He's probably lying about the strip club though. They really just wanted to stay in and play video games but their heartbroken friend dragged them to the filthy strip club where they were so unhappy to be. Right.

 

He seems to be playing some type of strange game. Why bring it up and then try to act like he didn't want to participate?

[DoingItWell11]

He likes being honest about things he says. Almost gives too much info. The friend that dragged him out was also a roommate, so they were all in the house together.

 

I trust he didn't do anything/he was also texting me that night until he got home. I didn't know he was at a strip club at the time of our texts. i asked him in person what time he got home (to see if it matched up with our texting) and the time was the same.

Edited September 28, 2016 by DoingItWell11

[JewelD]

If you're ok with it, that's fine, it just seemed odd that you would be bothered over a very simple text message like that but not the strip club story.

[basil67]

I don't believe he nearly cried in the strip club. Instead, I think he and his mates went and got drunk and did their best to distract the brokenhearted one by having a good time. I do believe there was no touching.

 

I'm not sure why you're worried about the text. He was busy and the text probably didn't need an answer.

 

And it's not weird to have minimal contact on nights when you're busy.

[ChickiePops]

I think you're being overly sensitive. It sounds like gentle teasing to me.