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Ok, well i haven't seen my bf/ex in over a month and the past about 3weeks i have done the NO contact.at all i've ignored his texts.but just today probably about 2 hours ago he said "miss you" "can we talk" im not sure what to do should i see what he wants to talk about maybe he wants to meet up ? or should i continue to ignore him? even tho hes trying to reach out?

 

Thank you

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Doing NC, and "ignoring" someone, are very different things.

 

"Ignoring" people isn't very nice, whereas NC is good for healing.

 

 

Take care.

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It depends on what you want. Do you want to get back together with this guy or are you officially over him?

 

If you're done with him then refrain from responding to his text and proceed to block his number so you're no longer tempted and move on.

 

If you're still in love and still think about getting back together again, then respond in favor of meeting and see what he has to say.

 

Only you can answer this one.

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It depends on what you want. Do you want to get back together with this guy or are you officially over him?

 

If you're done with him then refrain from responding to his text and proceed to block his number so you're no longer tempted and move on.

 

If you're still in love and still think about getting back together again, then respond in favor of meeting and see what he has to say.

 

Only you can answer this one.

 

This ^ only I'll add that recycling an already failed R/S doesn't have the highest success rate. People break up for a reason. Once they "try again", it doesn't take long for one or the other to remember why they wanted out and do it again.

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This ^ only I'll add that recycling an already failed R/S doesn't have the highest success rate. People break up for a reason. Once they "try again", it doesn't take long for one or the other to remember why they wanted out and do it again.

 

This is sooooo true, and it really does happen often enough,

I hope that would be the first discussion as to why it would be tough,

However, should you both address and SOLVE that problem in fact,

I'd like to think that romance would persevere and love would remain intact.

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If you want the guy back i would put the ball back in his court and ask when/where to meet.

 

I would also give yourself a few days before meeting him and think of what went wrong in the RS and see if they can be worked on and articulate what you actually want to say to himand what you want from him to make it work.

 

But if you dont want him back at all i would just say that you have moved on with your life and would like him to repect that

 

Good luck either way

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If your breakup was precipitated by chronic issues rather than an impulsive reaction, I'd wait on it. A month isn't a very long time. Take stock.

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This ^ only I'll add that recycling an already failed R/S doesn't have the highest success rate. People break up for a reason. Once they "try again", it doesn't take long for one or the other to remember why they wanted out and do it again.

 

Uh huh. It never gets better. People can't change in a month. You will literally pick up where you left off. It's a nightmare.

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well. so far i texted him "what do you mean by lets talk" no reply and its been almost 2 hours.makes me think.was he just testing me? shame.

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