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To keep it simple. Have been friendly with this girl for a month now. Some big steps forward went, out a few times last time being this weekend. Conversation has been good we actually shared a kiss this past weekend among other flirty things. No sex though. We have been mainly communicating via text just seems to workout that way. I naturally am more of an outgoing person shes kinda a text gorilla though she started to be real open as time went on.

 

However, after this past weekend things just seem stale. I mean we talked all weekend but it just didn't feel the same. Seems like a complete turn around. To be honest I also saw her last night at the gym and things just seemed off. I mean to the point where she was mad and didn't even want to talk. She said its been stressful as of late with everything going on in her life but at this point the conversation is dry.

 

I don't know if I naturally just text too much and I should stop at this point and kinda just give her space because I don't wanna keep texting with my high energy and not get the same in return. Before it seemed pretty neutral. Starting to wonder if she completely just lost all interest. Thoughts?

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Satu Established Member

Satu

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Text messages are pretty much weightless, and tell you very little about a person.

 

They can easily become a source of irritation.

 

 

From my journal:

 

 

This my hierarchy of preferred communication methods, from best to worst:

 

 

1. Skype.

 

2. Voice call.

 

3. Old fashioned letter.

 

4. Email.

 

5. Morse telegraphy.

 

6. Smoke signals.

 

7. Carrier pigeon.

 

8. Ouija board.

 

9. Sitting alone in the silent void of nothingness.

 

10. Text message.

 

 

Take care.

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Hi josm5587,

 

All too often in dating, we tend to naturally think the worst. After all, if you get on well with someone you naturally want to spend more time with them, talking and getting to know them.

 

However, it is important to remember that she may in fact actually have a lot on her plate and the dip in conversation may nothing to do with you 'texting too much'.

 

I would give her some space but let her know you are still around with messages here or there but try not to act too clingy of desperate. This can really be a huge turn off to a lot of people.

 

I hope you manage to get this sorted, make sure to drop back and let us know how it's going!

 

Anna :)

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Buddhist Established Member

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You've run out of things to say. She is probably ****ty because she either wants things to progress and they are not, or she has met someone else and wants to put you off. Th only way to know for sure is to ask her out again.

 

You can't conduct relationships via text, they require physical proximity, real conversations face to face and in person communication with body language. The current generation seems to think that texting is some kind of meaningful communication forum, it isn't. It kills real intimacy and the sooner you learn that the better.

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Buddhist

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Text messages are pretty much weightless, and tell you very little about a person.

 

 

8. Ouija board.

 

9. Sitting alone in the silent void of nothingness.

 

10. Text message.[/i]

 

 

Take care.

 

To add to Satu's list, buy a tarot deck....

 

8.5 Tarot Deck divination - will at least tell you more about yourself and why you hide behind an iPhone instead of interacting with people face to face. If nothing else.

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So I agree with all of you actually. Even though the conversation was good I was texting a bit to much so I am guilty. Probably put her off a little. What can I do I like the chick but realize now.

 

Update though didn't reach out to her at all yesterday nor am I going today. I know she is busy so gonna give her space. I did however see her at the gym last night and it was like night and day. She came up to me started talking to me briefly. She was in the vicinity of me the whole time during the session too.

 

She finished before but came looking for me to say goodbye. I don't know if these are good signs or really means nothing at all, but I guess we will see what happens. Thoughts? Thanks for advice everyone.

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Miss Clavel Established Member

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So I agree with all of you actually. Even though the conversation was good I was texting a bit to much so I am guilty. Probably put her off a little. What can I do I like the chick but realize now.

 

Update though didn't reach out to her at all yesterday nor am I going today. I know she is busy so gonna give her space. I did however see her at the gym last night and it was like night and day. She came up to me started talking to me briefly. She was in the vicinity of me the whole time during the session too.

 

She finished before but came looking for me to say goodbye. I don't know if these are good signs or really means nothing at all, but I guess we will see what happens. Thoughts? Thanks for advice everyone.

 

call her, on the phone. with your voice.

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text gorilla is good term :p

 

I don't know the answer to your dilemma but I do think if texting is a good form of communication for both parties that it can provide value to a relationship.

 

You shouldn't try to judge too much from it or have it only as the primary form of communication though. Good luck

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