I am at a loss

[uneasyfeeling]

in a very complicated relationship with a very complicated man. and I love him. I may not always like him. met him 3 years ago. went on a date . i was leaving to go to Vegas for the weekend and when i came back he had gotten back with his ex.. what?? ok well he still came around and said he was going to break up with her and wanted to be with me but didn't want to hurt her.huh?? ok. well time came and they broke up we started dating that was Jan come april he was going to Florida to visit his kids.. i had an uneasy feeling though. i became suspicious and well he had gone to meet a woman. who i later found out he had been talking to for 5 years. prior to even meeting me. and who he would later move to Florida to see if they had a future. how could i argue. go be happy. i let go as best i could. he was gone . then he messaged me . said he missed me come see me. i did, then i went back home he kept seeing her too. i confronted him and her and then he said he decided he couldn't be without me.

we started a plan for me to move to Florida. that was good for me i wanted a change. so here we are 6 months later. and i saw a text message he sent her Saturday night.. he told her he missed her very much. wtf...when i confronted him he said he would do anything it was a mistake a weak moment. I want him to in front of me contact her and tell her that. he said he would but he would resent it. mind you he had been telling me she had been reaching out to him and asking for him to leave me. this time he reached out to her. he is asking again for another chance. am i crazy? am i wrong for wanting him to have a conversation with her with me involved?? help??

[Buddhist]

So, he has a history of dating multiple other women while with you and stringing them along and stringing you along and you are still believing him because......?

[mikeylo]

It's not complicated if you are above 10 years of age. He is banging every woman with 2 legs.

[Buddhist]

am i crazy? am i wrong for wanting him to have a conversation with her with me involved?? help??

 

Yes you are. Yes you are. Realise that the prize you are fighting for here is years of being betrayed and living this reality again in your future. Why are you fighting for that? I think you have some misguided sense that if you win him from other women you are somehow worthy.

 

You can never be worthy by claiming this kind of partner. You will only ever be the woman who keeps believing a guy who lies to her.

[spiderowl]

The police would say he's got a 'rap sheet'. He's got a history of messing around with a women while still apparently with another one. I bet most of his relationships break up either because a girlfriend has dumped him for cheating (or this kind of emotional cheating he's doing) or he has left one to be with the other he's got on a string.

 

I don't think you are wrong for wanting to see him get rid of this other women. I just feel sorry that you can't see that this is the way it will always be with him. If it's not her, it will be someone else. He will make a hobby of cultivating other relationships and then blaming you for 'jumping to conclusions' about them or 'getting emotional'. He will always have a back-up woman he's in touch with and you will always end up feeling second-best.

 

For your own sake, leave this guy and find a better one who knows what love means.

Edited September 27, 2016 by spiderowl

[Miss Clavel]

can someone call the liquor store and tell them that i already have liquor in my house and i'm not supposed to have any more. that way i won't have to control myself whenever i'm near there.

[Gloria25]

I lost count of the burning red flags here...

 

This guy appears to have so much time to string women along...why isn't he spending this time on his kids instead of strange?

 

I don't even "like" this guy...

 

How can "love" be placed for this guy? There's nothing to love about him?

 

Is he good in bed or something?

[Satu]

This relationship has no merit whatsoever.

 

It's a pain engine.

 

 

Take care.