steenerz Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 my bf's mom kicked himi out of the house...long story, but the point is she is absolutely crazy. He moved into his apt that he'd be living in for the following school year...his mom hasn't called him or anything to check up on him...he doesn't have a bed, REAL food (living off of cereal, ramen, etc), etc, etc... he is two hours away. I feel like we are long distance like ALL the time. We started dating late july of last year, we were together for about 3 weeks then was long distance again for 9 months while we were in school...we visited each other about 2, sometimes 3 weekends a month...and although the beginning of this summer we saw each other everyday for we were back at home, he was still half an hour away. And now this. When he doesn't really have to be at the apartment now...although i think his mom is crazy, i think she was just super mad and irrational when she told him to leave...i stayed with him for three days this past week to help him settle in, bought some groceries and housewares stuff for him...poor thing...he doesn't have any friends down there or anything...i told him to come back home cuz he could stay with me for as long as he wanted, as my mom offered as well...but he wants to try living on his own cuz his mom gave him such a hard time. As much as i feel bad for him, i can't help but feel selfish. We're already away from each other 3/4 of the year, and now this. I just hope someday our relationship will be at hte point where we can be living together, and not living off of phone calls.
Merin Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Hmm.. not sure what you're looking for here but.. If your BF's Mom kicked him out of the house, while I won't say there aren't parents who aren't good parents because for real they are out there.. I'm also willing to bet that his Mom kicking him out has less to do with "She's Crazy" and more to do with she want's her Son, your BF to grow up and behave in a more responsible manner.. In some ways it seems to me that your BF has become accustom to having people enable him in not taking responsibility.. his Mom was obviously taking care of him with a roof over his head, clothes on his back and food in his stomach.. and now he has you buying him groceries and house items.. YET he is telling you he wants to do it on his own.. do you see how that is kind of contradicting?
Author steenerz Posted July 7, 2005 Author Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Hmm.. not sure what you're looking for here but.. If your BF's Mom kicked him out of the house, while I won't say there aren't parents who aren't good parents because for real they are out there.. I'm also willing to bet that his Mom kicking him out has less to do with "She's Crazy" and more to do with she want's her Son, your BF to grow up and behave in a more responsible manner.. In some ways it seems to me that your BF has become accustom to having people enable him in not taking responsibility.. his Mom was obviously taking care of him with a roof over his head, clothes on his back and food in his stomach.. and now he has you buying him groceries and house items.. YET he is telling you he wants to do it on his own.. do you see how that is kind of contradicting? he didn't have me buying groceries. He had some, and actually told me not to buy anything knowing, but i did anyway. And the house items...there are old dorm items that he can have for now, once again, which i offered to give, until the rest of his roommates moved in...i'm getting them back when i go back to school. as for his mom, i shouldn't say crazy, sorry. But she is a major control freak, and their entire family has fallen apart because of her.
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