savvy2008 Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 A quick note that we work in the same department but not for long. I am up for a promotion that would get me transferred and he is planning on transferring himself within a year or so. Also, I am 7 years older than him which makes me feel a bit weird but we are both adults. We only work with one other woman and she only works 16 hours per month so it's a bit difficult to see if he acts this way with everyone or if it's just with me. He's always making me laugh and even if it's at his expense, he's still smiling. He seems to touch me a lot, hand touching and arm to arm brushing. I'm trying to figure out if it's accidental, a personality quirk, or intentional. This morning we were moving items from a counter and instead of him moving his stuff and me moving mine, he just started passing me what we were moving. There were about 30 of these small items and it made it to where our hands were touching with almost every pass. We'll often be standing next to each other and our arms will brush against each other. Are these things accidental? He went to grab lunch and I said "You should bring me back something from there" half jokingly, but we do that occasionally at my workplace and just pay the person when they bring the food. His response was "wouldn't that be like a date?" which I thought to be very strange as we wouldn't have been eating together at all, why would he be thinking that? Another time he ordered us two things from a bakery and upon picking them up he was reaching to grab both of them until I said to the clerk that one was mine. He then told me that he was going to pay for mine. I know it's small and cheap but would that be an indicator that he likes me or that he is just a really nice guy? Someone please help me understand the difference because I never can!
Helivesforme Posted September 28, 2016 Posted September 28, 2016 If he touches you and makes an effort make you feel special , these are signs of interest. So why not just ask him?
preraph Posted September 28, 2016 Posted September 28, 2016 You have to be a little careful if the arm and hand touching is coupled with always repeating back what you said to acknowledge he heard it because some people read Dale Carnegie and do all that as a business tactic to make people like them. One of my exes does that to everyone and still does it to me even. But overall, I think if someone is touching you, it's fair game to up the game and see where it goes. Because no one is psychic and physical touch is physical touch.
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