Author js_77 Posted November 20, 2016 Author Posted November 20, 2016 There are far too many absolutes and generalizations being thrown out on this thread and, I for one, find it disturbing. Many folks are acting like this woman is completely damaged and that she will ruin his life simply because she has been diagnosed with a mental illness. She may be taking her medication, seeing a therapist and working hard to manage her life. WE DON'T KNOW. He has simply stated that she is "cold".. He hasn't given us many specific instances of how her behavior is affecting the relationship. His posts are just as vague and general as the responses that he's getting. I imagine the tone of this thread would be completely different if the mental illness factor were removed. Folks would most likely be telling him to communicate with her and deal with their problems, not to just take off. In fact, there are several threads on here where an individual states that their significant other is "cold" and they are chastised for wanting to get out of the relationship. Hell, there are people talking about their boyfriend/girlfriend going out and screwing around on them on multiple occasions and may responses are "try to work it out". So, essentially, people should try and make it work with a person who lies and cheats, just as long as they're not bipolar. To the OP: if you care about this woman then try to make it work and stop focusing on her mental illness. Because, I've got news for you: there are plenty of women out there that will screw you over without carrying what is, apparently on this site, the stigma of mental illness. Call it off if she TRULY isn't managing her illness and is being self-destructive. But, all and all, the lack of empathy and understanding on this thread is overwhelming. It sounds like you didn't read my first post in this thread, I'm not blaming her for being bipolar but this is "one" of the reasons why I broke up with her, so there is others reasons why we broke up. Go back and read my first post so you can understand.
OatsAndHall Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 It sounds like you didn't read my first post in this thread, I'm not blaming her for being bipolar but this is "one" of the reasons why I broke up with her, so there is others reasons why we broke up. Go back and read my first post so you can understand. I did read it. Every reason (with the exception of your jealousy) that you gave for wanting to end it was what you viewed as a byproduct of her being bipolar. The fact that she is bipolar is in the title of this thread and it is reiterated repeatedly in your posts. Again, you don't give specific examples of how her being bipolar affected your relationship other than her being "hot and cold" and that might not even be attributable to her illness. 1
basil67 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 She was "diagnosed" bipolar! It doesn't mean that her attitude is caused by the bipolar though. You can't blame bipolar for all of her negative personality traits.
Author js_77 Posted November 20, 2016 Author Posted November 20, 2016 I did read it. Every reason (with the exception of your jealousy) that you gave for wanting to end it was what you viewed as a byproduct of her being bipolar. The fact that she is bipolar is in the title of this thread and it is reiterated repeatedly in your posts. Again, you don't give specific examples of how her being bipolar affected your relationship other than her being "hot and cold" and that might not even be attributable to her illness. It doesn't mean that her attitude is caused by the bipolar though. You can't blame bipolar for all of her negative personality traits. She has a lot of mood swings too, mania and depression as well!
OatsAndHall Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 She has a lot of mood swings too, mania and depression as well! Once again, you don't give any specific examples of how her reaction to those bouts affected your relationship.You have not talked about anything that couldn't have been worked through by sitting down and communicating about how to manage the illness within your relationship. Being "manic and depressed" are (GASP!!!) symptoms of MANIC DEPRESSION and are managed by (DOUBLE GASP!!) the medication she is taking and adjusting to. To me, it doesn't sound like you wanted to be with her before she was diagnosed and feel like the bipolar tag should give you a good reason to call it off. 1
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