mikeylo Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 what kind of emotional compatibility works for you ? While it's the most important factor in a successful relationship but we can't find a perfect match and usually have to work around and find who or what we can deal with or live with. Before I was married,I was stand offish! Very carefree but hid my true feelings and emotions. Women came and left my life and I didn't feel a loss a I wasn't emotionally connected. I tried to connect but failed. When wife came along, she was the one who wear their heart on their sleeve , very talkative and couldn't hold a secret. Deep down I was like her but it took me a while to be on the same level as her -- being emotionally open. Soon it was that we could read our minds. No issues since then apart from general partner quirks ! 1
carhill Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 Transparency without Jerry Springer drama works for me. 1
central Posted September 27, 2016 Posted September 27, 2016 I'm not sure what you mean by emotional compatibility. I can only interpret that as meaning someone who is mentally healthy (no significant mental illness or dysfunction), able to know and express -- appropriately -- how they feel (good communication), and has a compatible personality type.
carhill Posted September 27, 2016 Posted September 27, 2016 The OP can clarify; my interpretation is one of emotional style and makeup. We're all different. We each form, store, process and express emotions uniquely. Some aspects of emotional style can be changed through cognitive work, presuming the person wishes such change. Others are essentially hard-wired. The compatibility component comes into play when the styles of two unique people mesh in an intimate relationship. Some styles mesh well. Others not. This presumes they are presented transparently.
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