Moving forward with an ex

[Ellatrent]

We first started dating at 14 after knowing eachother all our lives and we're now both 18. He has split up with me twice, once after 2 years and then being apart for 8 months we got back together and this happened for another year until he broke up with me again 2 months ago.

 

The first time it was due to him not being able to handle my mental health and the second time was due to him falling out of love with me.

During the first breakup he slept with another girl (his ex before me whom he'd been shady with between the two of us) and I also slept with a totally new guy whom was a rebound.

 

Our relationship was usually very up and down with arguments that involved him ignoring me for days however when things were great they really were.

 

He came over to my house the other night before he moves away to university, we spent a very close evening til 5am and both really enjoyed it however he has stated he doesn't want a relationship at the minute.

 

I'm really not sure what to do, if you need more information then please ask

[smudge21]

Maybe it's time to consider that this isn't right for both of you. He's made it clear with his words and actions that he doesn't want anything serious so take that as true and move on. You're still so very young and the world's a big place full of really nice people, some of which will actually want to be with you. Go explore it and find them.

[Ady1974]

he has stated he doesn't want a relationship at the minute.

 

There is your answer.

 

This might not be what you want to hear, but you have to move on and let him go.

 

To be honest it sounds like you didn't have a very healthy relationship to begin with.

 

Start with NC and find yourself again and love you. When you have done that then you can look back at this relationship and see it for what it is, but you can only do that when you are thinking clearly and rationaly again without emotions.