Smoothman Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 I’d like to ask your opinion on a few things related to OLD profiles: Background: So I’m seeing a woman I met online OK, it’s only been a couple of weeks, but we hooked up on 2nd date, and have seen each other 4 times, had sex every time (except the first). I did ask if it was exclusive, she sort of said yes, but I don’t know for sure… However, she is online all the time. I admit I logged back on to check…she’s on daily… I had taken mine down (not just because of her, I just needed a break). So I know she’s not just reading my profile again. So: At what point in a relationship do you think your partner should either take down, or at least stop checking their profile? At what point do YOU stop looking? Also, why do you keep looking even after you’ve progressed to a sexual relationship? I stop at that point…I mean, what’s the point? I know, looking isn’t the same as actually seeing someone, but why be there, obviously getting multiple people messaging you, if you aren’t going to chat back..? Finally, would you create a fake account to see if they are just looking, or actively engaged in the dating process?
Ami1uwant Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 Generally a relationship becomes official bf/gf when you talk of being exclusive which usually also means having sex. At that point you should stop communicating on it. Because of paid membership and things like that its understandable not to kill a profile---but instead maybe wait a few months before killing a profile. this time is usually the period of time from just being exclusive to being something serious. in an exclusive relationship it may quickly end because of differences that you find out. Something with online dating sites and activity you need to understand (Match has done this)---a profile can be still listed as active even if the person hasnt logged into the site in months. How?? because they may have viewed an email from the dating site that triggers the activity clock. As far as someone still looking----With some online dating is just like shopping behavior. Some may still want to try and find that dream thing so they still look to see if something better comes around. others are satisfied with what they found.
smackie9 Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 Forget about the online stuff.....go by how she acts around you, or treats you and how she communicates with you between dates. That is how you know where things are going. She didn't give you a direct answer about sexual exclusivity.....that is telling.
Author Smoothman Posted September 26, 2016 Author Posted September 26, 2016 Forget about the online stuff.....go by how she acts around you, or treats you and how she communicates with you between dates. That is how you know where things are going. She didn't give you a direct answer about sexual exclusivity.....that is telling. Well, I said "It's just you and me, right, we're not seeing anyone else? She just nodded and hugged me... But it wasn't a really definite nod...if you get my meaning
soph-walker Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 Well, I said "It's just you and me, right, we're not seeing anyone else? She just nodded and hugged me... But it wasn't a really definite nod...if you get my meaning She's hedging her bets. If you can live with this, then continue as you are. If you can't and are looking for a signed, sealed, delivered relationship then you need to call time on things or be prepared to have a proper talk. I think sometimes as well...if you have to ask, you already know the answer. 1
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