tyblatt Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 My girlfriend of 4 years just broke up with me and I feel like ****. It was out of nowhere to me. Shes been going through a lot recently. Her dad recently just passed away and her mom is now sick and I guess its been too much for her. At first she told me that she wanted a break and I personally couldn't do it because it would be one of those non committed breaks where she could do whatever she wanted with whoever she wanted and I couldn't do it so she decided to break it off completely. She hasn't contacted me in about a month and I'm going crazy because I now realize that it is really over. What bothers me the most is that she told me that she loves me and is still in love with me and that I was her best friends but she just couldn't do it right now. All of this is kind of messing with me right now because I really did see myself spending the rest of my life with her which is stupid because we are only 24 and have the rest of my life to look forward too. The words she said to me just weeks ago and her actions now are completely different. Right now I'm trying to figure out how to move forward with my life but its so hard right now. Any suggestions or comments would help because right now i feel completely hopeless.
zeeforever Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 My girlfriend of 4 years just broke up with me and I feel like ****. It was out of nowhere to me. Shes been going through a lot recently. Her dad recently just passed away and her mom is now sick and I guess its been too much for her. At first she told me that she wanted a break and I personally couldn't do it because it would be one of those non committed breaks where she could do whatever she wanted with whoever she wanted and I couldn't do it so she decided to break it off completely. She hasn't contacted me in about a month and I'm going crazy because I now realize that it is really over. What bothers me the most is that she told me that she loves me and is still in love with me and that I was her best friends but she just couldn't do it right now. All of this is kind of messing with me right now because I really did see myself spending the rest of my life with her which is stupid because we are only 24 and have the rest of my life to look forward too. The words she said to me just weeks ago and her actions now are completely different. Right now I'm trying to figure out how to move forward with my life but its so hard right now. Any suggestions or comments would help because right now i feel completely hopeless. Your situation is 100% like mine! Do you have Skype or something to talk?
smudge21 Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 I never understand the reasoning behind dumping a loved one, someone who loves you, when things start to get bad in your personal life. Surely that's the time when you need someone there for you. I always think there's much more going on and the personal problems are used as an excuse to end the relationship. That's just my opinion of course. 1
RyanO1991 Posted September 26, 2016 Posted September 26, 2016 From my own experience... In all honesty, you're in for an exhausting time. But it will get easier (maybe gradually day by day, perhaps quite suddenly). If you really feel that she's worth fighting for, that's fine. But my advice would be to give yourself a period of no contact to decide whether that's really what you want. You might be surprised. If the both of you will make good life partners, she'll most likely recognise that when she misses you.
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