Fernando2826 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 A girl I used to date seems to shift in her emotions VERY quickly. I was hoping someone could explain this? When we together, albeit for 6 months, she would say things like "you're my soulmate" and discuss our kids and future. Then, just 3 weeks after saying things like this, she went off with another guy and barely seemed to care. She then got together with another guy, who she was on and off with for about a year. He then ended it, and she dropped into a depression, posting songs and poems on social media describing the life she wished they could have together, saying she sees his face everywhere etc. 3 months later and she is with another guy, who she has known for about 6 weeks. She is now posting things describing how home is not a place but a person, how she doesn't care where she is as long as she's with him etc. This, to me, seems like very rapid shifting of emotion and is rather incomprehensible to me. Can anyone explain it? 1
GemmaUK Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 How do you know all this? Are you stalking her online? 1
Author Fernando2826 Posted September 25, 2016 Author Posted September 25, 2016 How do you know all this? Are you stalking her online? Mostly things i've heard from friends etc. Some online stuff which comes up on newsfeed etc. 1
Satu Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Mostly things i've heard from friends etc. Some online stuff which comes up on newsfeed etc. Why not just concentrate on making your own life as good as it can be? Analysing hers won't bring you any benefit. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care. 2
GemmaUK Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 You broke up. It's not important - or it shouldn't be. If it is important to you then you need to get some control over that - it's not healthy. 1
Redhead14 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 (edited) A girl I used to date seems to shift in her emotions VERY quickly. I was hoping someone could explain this? When we together, albeit for 6 months, she would say things like "you're my soulmate" and discuss our kids and future. Then, just 3 weeks after saying things like this, she went off with another guy and barely seemed to care. She then got together with another guy, who she was on and off with for about a year. He then ended it, and she dropped into a depression, posting songs and poems on social media describing the life she wished they could have together, saying she sees his face everywhere etc. 3 months later and she is with another guy, who she has known for about 6 weeks. She is now posting things describing how home is not a place but a person, how she doesn't care where she is as long as she's with him etc. This, to me, seems like very rapid shifting of emotion and is rather incomprehensible to me. Can anyone explain it? She's in love with being in love. In other words, when things get comfortable or she gets bored, she finds another guy to get that "high" you first get when you're dating someone new. Basically, I'd say she is an attention [seeker] . . . Edited September 25, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language 2
Author Fernando2826 Posted September 25, 2016 Author Posted September 25, 2016 She's in love with being in love. In other words, when things get comfortable or she gets bored, she finds another guy to get that "high" you first get when you're dating someone new. Basically, I'd say she is an attention [seeker] . . . Is this something that changes with time or will she always be so?
Satu Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Is this something that changes with time or will she always be so? It takes a long time to get out of a behavioural loop like that, even if the person wants to. If the person is unaware that it is a problem, nothing much will change. Take care.
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