Wooloo Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 So a little background info, my ex broke up with me 3.5 months ago, it was a pretty amicable breakup, a loss of feelings on her half but I have always got the impression it was something of a panicked decision that she followed through with. Either way I went NC for about a month then tried to contact her a few times by text to keep a friendly line of communication open (we have a lot of mutual friends that neither of us want to give up so I thought this was the best way to make things less awkward when we inevitably see each other again). The texts were good, friendly even a tad flirty but she rarely initiated contact and so I took that as a sign she didn't really want to be talking to me. Fast forward to a week ago and a mutual friend's leaving party for work. Now we have seen each other a handful of times since then but it's always been a very brief 'hi, how are you' smile and end it type of talk but a few things struck me about this time. For starters it seemed a bit weird for her to have even turned up, none of the 20+ people there were her good friends really and none of hers turned up either. She seemed very enthusiastic about attending (posting a lot in the fb group) where even the host turned to look at me and said 'she's oddly excited about going'. Anyway when she turns up at the first bar we smile and that's it really (although the morning after I realised she sent me a snapchat whilst we were there) There were enough people around to ensure we're not forced to talk to each other. Couple hours later at the club I notice she's on her own occasionally and interjects herself into conversations I'm in with other people. I try to leave each group as she does politely (I really didn't want to have to talk to her, more to make sure I wasn't awkward or flare up any old emotions) but eventually she caught me on my own and we started talking. And I'm going to be honest, I enjoyed it. We talked about a few old memories, small talk, things we've been doing etc. She was pretty flirty from the start, the way she looked at me, spoke to me, touching my arm and back. After a good 20mins one of my friends moved in to save me and I broke free, but 10 mins after she got me again at the bar and more of the same continued until prompted by friends to hit the dance floor where I left her at the bar. She then moved towards me a few times to dance but I wasn’t very reciprocal never dancing specifically with her but just the group. By the end of the night there were just 6 of us left and as I went to the bar again she left without prompt. No one else saw her leave so in my concern I did text her making sure she got out fine. She said she left with a friend and said goodnight with xx's. Then without prompt an hour later let me know when she got home with again a goodnight and xx's. So ye that's the night's events all laid out. Now on the night we'd both had a little to drink (weren't really drunk but mildly intoxicated) and I kind of rationalised it as ‘we were both tipsy probably just the alcohol talking. But these last few days I started to realise how it made me feel, now it's not been an easy breakup for me because I believed there was so much potential cut short but the last month I've been making really good strides to healing. If I'm honest there's been a part of me that wants her back but I don't think she’s shown me enough to act on it. If she’d actually contacted me in all this time perhaps I would contact her back but really all she’s shown me is that she still finds me attractive in some form. I know it’s a long one and thanks for reading it all, kinda wanted to vent this as much as anything! It’s been a week since then and I’ve not heard anything else from her so gone with the assumption that it didn’t mean much, what do you think though? Is she trying to communicate with me or should I ignore it? Thanks!!
Miss Clavel Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 she's single. she likes you validating that she's attractive. if she wanted you, she'd call.
Trinity_84 Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 Yeah most likely she still likes you and her other "options" haven't worked out, so she's testing you to see if you are still game. Take that as you may, but these sort of games usually don't end very well. Especially with someone who already broke up with you.
AGrace Posted October 31, 2016 Posted October 31, 2016 I agree 100% with Trinity..... This woman had something going with someone else, left you in the best possible non confrontational way, got away from you, slid on over to the next big thing, had some fun and for whatever reason that thing she left you for is no longer there! Now, due to the next big thing isn't there, she bumps into you, and is most likely testing the waters to see if there's a chance she can get back with a man who once was demoted to 2nd best. Her 1st place best cut and run for whatever reason(s), now she's eye balling her once 2nd place option and testing to see if she can come back into your fold. Alcohol at this party thing or not, buzzed, liquor talking, load of crap, that makes no difference in this equation at all! Games, just sick love games! If you weren't good enough for her to keep the first time around, what would make someone think that the second time around is going to turn out any different.
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