icecold131 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Planned a first date with a girl 2 days ago for sunday, she gave me her address also so I could pick her up. today (saturday), she texted me and told me that she's sorry but her grandpa just passed away this morning so she doesn't think she can do tomorrow... I told her that i was sorry and that it was okay and we could go another time, and to feel better. she said thanks for understanding. I told her i was here if she needed anything. she says thanks, i appreciate it! i could understand why she wouldn't bring up rescheduling because she is really upset that a family member has just passed and she doesn't want to talk. but i also have some strange doubts that she might have just said that to blow me off (which is horrible because you're using a family member as an excuse). Thoughts? blow off or legitimate? 1
Mkn1010 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 This happened to me and the excuse was legit! A lie like that is hard to maintain and there are many more less dramatic excuses to use if she was trying to blow you off! I thought the same thing as you, which tends to highlight how suspicious I am as a person (due to being hurt in the past), so there's a possibility that you may need to work on trusting others a little more or trusting YOURSELF! If it is an excuse, you'll know pretty soon by her proceeding actions! So just let it reveal itself and give her the benefit of the doubt! 1
TunaCat Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Only a really screwed up person would fake a family death in order to get out of a date. I don't trust easily, but I'd believe this girl. Let her come to you when she's ready to see you. 2
Ami1uwant Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Can she do this as an excuse to blow you off...sure. Most people dont go to this length. They will use something easier like I'm sick or car broke. I'm leaning toward believing this is legit. 1
Author icecold131 Posted September 25, 2016 Author Posted September 25, 2016 thank you both for your answers! yes i have trust issues from the past that i need to work on, and i will listen to your advice and let it reveal itself! 2
leogirl876 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Most likely legit unless she absolutely decided she never wants to see you again. If you don't hear from her for about a week or 2 then reach out to her again. If you go out with her, then you'll know it was the truth. I think it's legit, only a really sick twisted person would say something like that. A blow off is normally I'm not feeling good, or my friend's boyfriend just dumped her and she needs me to be with her or something like that.
insert_name Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Most likely legit unless she absolutely decided she never wants to see you again. If you don't hear from her for about a week or 2 then reach out to her again. If you go out with her, then you'll know it was the truth. I think it's legit, only a really sick twisted person would say something like that. A blow off is normally I'm not feeling good, or my friend's boyfriend just dumped her and she needs me to be with her or something like that. If I had a quid for every time I have heard that! It truly is the worst excuse you can hear for not being available, because it is usually a lie and even if it was true who wants to date someone who cancels on you for that reason? They may as well just tell you the truth because using that as a reason is more insulting than whatever the deal really is! /rant
strawberryshortstack Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Planned a first date with a girl 2 days ago for sunday, she gave me her address also so I could pick her up. today (saturday), she texted me and told me that she's sorry but her grandpa just passed away this morning so she doesn't think she can do tomorrow... I told her that i was sorry and that it was okay and we could go another time, and to feel better. she said thanks for understanding. I told her i was here if she needed anything. she says thanks, i appreciate it! i could understand why she wouldn't bring up rescheduling because she is really upset that a family member has just passed and she doesn't want to talk. but i also have some strange doubts that she might have just said that to blow me off (which is horrible because you're using a family member as an excuse). Thoughts? blow off or legitimate? Having just lost my grandfather yesterday morning as well, I can understand her point of view. She's not in a good state of mind, and I would give her some time to process.
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