danhalen138 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 So I met this girl about 2 weeks ago and have had 2 dates since then. Both dates were (I thought) really good and this is the first girl I've had high hopes for in awhile. During the second date we both ended up getting fairly drunk between dinner and some bars and ended up dancing and making out at a club. Ended up calling it a night but made loose plans to see each other again soon. The next day we were texting back and forth a bit throughout the day. I asked her if she wanted to go do something tomorrow to which she replied that she wanted to catch up on some reading and other stuff tomorrow. I told her ok and just left it at that... In my experience people tend to do exactly what they want to do. If she wanted to hang out she would. Likely she's wasn't as excited about the prospect as I was. Not sure if I should just chock this up to a loss or if there's a chance she's just playing hard to get or what. Current plan is just wait to see if she reinitiates contact but just wanted to get some outside perspective.
Methodical Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 Since things went well, this could be her way of slowing down a fast moving freight train. I think you have the right idea by giving her time to initiate. If you haven't heard anything in a few days, follow up. If she ignores or puts you off, leave her alone and move on.
ThorntonMelon Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 No way it's hard to get. If she was interested she wouldn't have answered the way she did. However, take this as a real positive - you picked up her signals, didn't pursue, read it all right - you're on the right path when someone is giving you good signals!
dumbass2 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 You're handling it correct, but don't assume anything just yet. Like Methodical said, wait a few days and then if you are that interested in her and haven't heard back, then ask her one more time. If you don't get a positive response, then yes, move along and THEN you can assume that you thought more about her and the first date then she did. Sometimes people give up too early by assuming things too early. Just be cool about it.
angel.eyes Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 No way would I drop my plans for some guy's vague "let's do something tomorrow" suggestion! I barely know you, but you want me to prioritize you over my friends and family who I have long established relationships with? And at the last minute no less?!? Not happening! My original level of interest is completely irrelevant.
Author danhalen138 Posted September 25, 2016 Author Posted September 25, 2016 No way would I drop my plans for some guy's vague "let's do something tomorrow" suggestion! I barely know you, but you want me to prioritize you over my friends and family who I have long established relationships with? And at the last minute no less?!? Not happening! My original level of interest is completely irrelevant. Well it's not like I asked her to drop any plans. We hung out day 1, and day 2 I asked her if she wanted to get together on day 3 to which she responded she wanted to catch up on reading. Not exactly prioritizing any established relationships. Anyways, she texted me this morning saying she just needed a day to herself. Probably a good sign I suppose.
preraph Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 If you were the last one to contact, then I'd wait to see if she contacts. If she was the last, I'd still wait a bit. If she's interested, and she's not stupid, so she knows she refused a date, she will contact you to make sure you know she's still interested.
purplesoccer34 Posted September 25, 2016 Posted September 25, 2016 It is possible that she really did just want to catch up on reading or whatever. But now that she knows she rejected your last idea, she will contact you again to reschedule if she's interested. So wait to see if she does that--if she doesn't contact you again for another few days, your best bet then is to move on.
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