ConfusedInOC Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 About three weeks ago as I was sitting at the office getting evaluated for LASIK surgery, I noticed a woman at the front desk. I was on my cell phone so I couldn't exactly walk up to introduce myself. As she was leaving, I smiled and waved at her. She smiled, waved back and left. "Cool," I thought. When I finished my call I walked over to the receptionist and asked who she was. "Julie, a client of ours..." was the reply. I grabbed one of my business cards and hastily wrote my cell number on it. I asked the receptionist if she wouldn't mind, the next time she talks to her would she give her my number. "Sure!" she said. "She's coming in again in a few weeks so when I call for the appointment, I will tell her." Well, last Sunday there was a message at my office. It was from Julie and she got the message. So I waited and called her back on Tuesday. We talked for about an hour on the phone and set up a date for Wednesday. Well, yesterday was the date and it went VERY well. Lots of smiling, eye contact, big hug after the date with plans to go out again soon. As it turns out, Julie is from a solid Christian family and that was one of my biggest goals was to find someone whom I could be spiritually poked with. God works in amazing ways. It was through His will that we meet. I don't believe in "chance" meetings. God has a plan for us all and if Julie turns out to the someone that is a big part of my life, I will know that everything my Ex did to me and the pain I suffered were a part of God's plan to prepare me for someone better. When I was unceremoniously dumped, I took three months off to re-evaluate myself, improve, heal and make sure I knew what I wanted from a significant other. My ex, on the other hand, is bouncing around from guy to guy -- never fully healing and never understanding what she really wants in life. Just running. Faith in God is an amazing thing
Opium Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Faith in God is an amazing thing Yes it is! I'm so happy for you from reading all your post I can tell you've come a long way and even in your writing I can see your more upbeat. I'm happy to see you're not afraid to put yourself out their because what you did took balls, lol. That was a big chance and you took it, I give your props for that. All I want to tell you is don't rush this one. Take it day by day, date by date and see how it goes. You really don't know a person till you get to a couple of months. Try not to blind yourself just because you have few things in common, keep your head straight and don't fall to soon cause it will bite you in the azz. As far as everything else, have fun and enjoy your single life. I wish you luck and by her calling you back shows she's really interested. I'm sure when she got that message it was a big surprise and she probably couldn't believe a guy would actually do that. So from a woman's point of view you got some nice brownie points.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC God works in amazing ways.... When I was unceremoniously dumped, I took three months off to re-evaluate myself, improve, heal and make sure I knew what I wanted from a significant other. Good for you. "All things work together... "
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 That is really awesome. I hope it will work out for you. Funny old world, eh? Just a couple of months ago if someone had told you through the blinding pain that you should "buck up little camper, because you'll find a great woman" I don't expect you would have believed them. I guess when it happens, it makes it all the better because you don't expect it. Good luck with it! I always did see your being alone and hurt as a "perfectly good waste of a white boy" (dorky movie reference, don't mind me...)
tiki Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 YAY!!! Congrats to you. Hope it works out like you want!
Author ConfusedInOC Posted July 7, 2005 Author Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by Opium Yes it is! I'm so happy for you from reading all your post I can tell you've come a long way and even in your writing I can see your more upbeat. I'm happy to see you're not afraid to put yourself out their because what you did took balls, lol. That was a big chance and you took it, I give your props for that. All I want to tell you is don't rush this one. Take it day by day, date by date and see how it goes. You really don't know a person till you get to a couple of months. Try not to blind yourself just because you have few things in common, keep your head straight and don't fall to soon cause it will bite you in the azz. As far as everything else, have fun and enjoy your single life. I wish you luck and by her calling you back shows she's really interested. I'm sure when she got that message it was a big surprise and she probably couldn't believe a guy would actually do that. So from a woman's point of view you got some nice brownie points. Thank you. The proof I scored good brownie points were: 1. When she first saw me, she gave me a nice hug. 2. We both made a lot of eye contact and when I talked, she listened intently (as did I with her). 3. When I asked "Are you interested in going with me to a Church dance..." she didn't bat an eye and promptly answered YES! 4. I cut things a little short on purpose so we'd have more to talk about next time (gotta leave some mystery for her!) and the hug goodbye was much longer My ex dumping me might have been the single greatest thing to ever happen to me. Because of it, I shed my "nice guy" syndrome, found out what kind of a man I was and that I really DO like myself. I understand women a lot better and I have become much more focused and goal orientated than I ever was. Praise God! Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia That is really awesome. I hope it will work out for you. Funny old world, eh? Just a couple of months ago if someone had told you through the blinding pain that you should "buck up little camper, because you'll find a great woman" I don't expect you would have believed them. I guess when it happens, it makes it all the better because you don't expect it. Good luck with it! I always did see your being alone and hurt as a "perfectly good waste of a white boy" (dorky movie reference, don't mind me...) Thank you so much. All of you
Merin Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Yay for you I'm happy to see you getting back out there and meaning it
Author ConfusedInOC Posted July 7, 2005 Author Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Yay for you I'm happy to see you getting back out there and meaning it Well, I got tired of waiting for you to ask me out so I had to move on
Merin Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC Well, I got tired of waiting for you to ask me out so I had to move on Uh huh I see how you are! LOL JK JK JK! Seriously it's great to see that you're going out and this time it isn't making you feel bad or going through the motions of "dating" that you found someone you have a genuine interest in and obviously walked away from the date with good feelings, thats outstanding
alphamale Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC As it turns out, Julie is from a solid Christian family and that was one of my biggest goals was to find someone whom I could be spiritually poked with. is that some type of sexual reference?
Author ConfusedInOC Posted July 7, 2005 Author Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale is that some type of sexual reference? Typo. I meant YOKED. And Merin, taking time off after a bad breakup instead of rushing into another relationship was the smartest thing I did. Gotta heal yourself before you're any good to someone else.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC Typo. I meant YOKED. Alpha's probably not going to understand this one either... sounds as much bondage as scripture
quankanne Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 one of my biggest goals was to find someone whom I could be spiritually poked with sorry ... great typo, there. I could picture (A) a girl with a really pointy stick keeping you on your spiritual toes and (B) something along the lines of what Alpha suggested!!!! still, I'm glad to see that the pain you felt with the break-up of your previous relationship has been supplanted by something much, much better: a girl you can connect with on all levels. I've always held the view that every broken relationship you experience brings you closer to the love you're meant to have. God is good!
Author ConfusedInOC Posted July 7, 2005 Author Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by quankanne one of my biggest goals was to find someone whom I could be spiritually poked with sorry ... great typo, there. I could picture (A) a girl with a really pointy stick keeping you on your spiritual toes and (B) something along the lines of what Alpha suggested!!!! still, I'm glad to see that the pain you felt with the break-up of your previous relationship has been supplanted by something much, much better: a girl you can connect with on all levels. I've always held the view that every broken relationship you experience brings you closer to the love you're meant to have. God is good! God IS good The only thing I wanted from the Ex was for her to love me back and she couldn't do that. To know you are truly loved for who you are is special. When I became a Christian, that was the very first thing I learned about God. How much he loved me just for who I am.
UCFKevin Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Congrats on the date, glad things are going better for you. Baby steps will take you all the way in time.
Pyro Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC God works in amazing ways. Faith in God is an amazing thing You damn right. For the way that I turned out, I owe it to my faith that I have in God. Good luck with Julie my friend.
Pyro Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin But you're an evil doer! To the batcave! Shhh, you will blow my cover. I only rage the streets of Gotham by night.
Author ConfusedInOC Posted July 7, 2005 Author Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by The Riddler You damn right. For the way that I turned out, I owe it to my faith that I have in God. Good luck with Julie my friend. Thanks you guys. I wish I was a better Disciple and could show people the wonderful life they can have when they have a relationship with Christ. Appreciate it. If this works out you guys will be the first to know
Pyro Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin And I will always stop you...old friend.... I'll be ready, and I will have my posse of Gotham villians waiting. Its war!
blue16 Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC 4. I cut things a little short on purpose so we'd have more to talk about next time (gotta leave some mystery for her!) oooooo CioC playin the game, well done hehe all jokes aside that's awesome you found another girl. Personally I'm not really a religious guy, but there are times when you meet someone and it just seems almost too set up/perfect and I think "man if there is a God he's giving me a chance right now." Just reiterating what some of the other posters said, take it easy, don't get caught up too fast, and don't rush into anything quickly because you are still healing from the breakup with your ex. Other than that, have a good time at the Church dance. Best of luck and keep us updated.
quankanne Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 I wish I was a better Disciple and could show people the wonderful life they can have when they have a relationship with Christ. the best examples I've seen is that of people just simply living and loving their life in Christ. Because sooner or later, someone's gonna ask what your secret is, what the key to your happiness is and you honestly answer, "It's God." browbeating, on the other hand, just pushes people further away because nobody likes being preached at, even if it's meant to help you ...
kellyp1 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 I am really happy for you. That is awesome that you are enjoying yourself. Even if it does not turn out to be perfect, at least you are back out there having fun. Good luck!
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