dmsisu Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 It's been 10 days since my ex dumped me and during that time I have figured out exactly why and feel like I have closure. I have not been in touch with her and she has not been in touch with me. Yesterday I did decide to block her from my social media in order to heal and fully move on. The last step now is to send back the painting that she had given me to fix in Photoshop (luckily I had not begun to restore the image prior to her breaking up with me). Currently it is in a poster shipping tube and ready to go to the post office. My question is whether I should include a quick thank you note? It is not in my nature to hold a grudge or be so angry at the end of the relationship, whether it was mutual or one-sided as it was in this case. I always think that killing with kindness is the route to go. What would you do? If I do write a quick thank you note, this is what I had in mind: Thank you (exes name) For the time we spent together. I hope you find what you're looking for and maybe in the future we'll bump into each other on the summit of a mountain. Kindly, (my name)
Nowty V Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 I think the preferred route would be Dear Ex's Name Find enclosed your picture. Kind Regards Your name Anything else is just lame 7
Satu Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Do not send her that note and do not play the mandolin under her bedroom window. Take care. 5
Author dmsisu Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 Thank you for your feeback. On a side note: I know only one person in Finland named Satu. She's a photographer, just like me. 1
Zahara Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 No need for the soppy note. Just send without. I think dumpees try and find ways to soften the dumpers heart with these types of gestures and words. 3
Author dmsisu Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 Thank you for your feeback, Nowty V. 1
Satu Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Thank you for your feeback. On a side note: I know only one person in Finland named Satu. She's a photographer, just like me. I'm a photographer too, but I'm not that Satu. It's a pretty common name in Finland. Take care. 1
Author dmsisu Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 Thank you everyone for your time and feedback. It is true that dumpees try to soften the hearts of the dumper, I've done it in the past and only seeing now from the consensus, that it's really not necessary. Though these break-ups are not pleasant, I am always learning a lot before, during, and after. Have a great rest of the weekend everyone. I'm off to the post office to drop it of sans-note! 3
aloneinaz Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Honestly, You should ship her whatever back to her with no note. You owe her nothing but sending that back to her. And, ship it back USPS collect!! 4
Author dmsisu Posted September 24, 2016 Author Posted September 24, 2016 Honestly, You should ship her whatever back to her with no note. You owe her nothing but sending that back to her. And, ship it back USPS collect!! Thank you, aloneinaz I didn't even know that was possible to COD with packages (shows how much I ship stuff to people ) The post office was closed by the time I got there, so now I can do it on Monday with that option. Many thanks to you and EVERYONE else today on helping a fella out. Cheers!
NopeNah Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Thank you, aloneinaz I didn't even know that was possible to COD with packages (shows how much I ship stuff to people ) The post office was closed by the time I got there, so now I can do it on Monday with that option. Many thanks to you and EVERYONE else today on helping a fella out. Cheers! As much as I'd be tempted after getting dumped( No offense). I'd just pay the $3-$10 and ship it. 1
Humantk Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Yeah no note. But I would pay for shipping. You're a classy guy, like the poster above said, its worth the few bucks. 1
fromheart Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 It's been 10 days since my ex dumped me and during that time I have figured out exactly why and feel like I have closure. I have not been in touch with her and she has not been in touch with me. Yesterday I did decide to block her from my social media in order to heal and fully move on. The last step now is to send back the painting that she had given me to fix in Photoshop (luckily I had not begun to restore the image prior to her breaking up with me). Currently it is in a poster shipping tube and ready to go to the post office. My question is whether I should include a quick thank you note? It is not in my nature to hold a grudge or be so angry at the end of the relationship, whether it was mutual or one-sided as it was in this case. I always think that killing with kindness is the route to go. What would you do? If I do write a quick thank you note, this is what I had in mind: Thank you (exes name) For the time we spent together. I hope you find what you're looking for and maybe in the future we'll bump into each other on the summit of a mountain. Kindly, (my name) Waste of time. She couldn't give a rats backside as to what mountain you'll be climbing if she were honest about it. Take the higher ground...NC 1
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