ashaya Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Hey all, I'll make this as brief as possible: I'm 29, and had a mutual crush on a 20 year old for over a year - we were very close and the only thing stopping us from getting together was that we were seeing other people, then I went overseas. She adored me and everyone noticed. We got together, and she went cold on me after a week, and dumped me after two weeks. She then blew me off afterwards and vanished. It was a total mindf*ck seeing her do a 180 on me like that. And I didn't do anything "wrong", if that makes sense. What made it worse was that she didn't tell me why - she initially broke up because she said her anxiety was too bad to even be in a casual relationship - which I didn't believe but she implored to accept it nonetheless. When she got together with someone else 2-3 weeks later I asked her again what happened, and all she said was "I have told you everything". So my question is - what happened? My theory is that I had a lot of unresolved issues that were eating away at my confidence and self-esteem...ie not being responsible, commited to things, or in control of my life enough. Maybe she picked up on that. Or perhaps she just met someone else. Thoughts? Thanks!
joyful Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Having a crush and being in a relationship are two very different things. More than likely, her feelings faded or just weren't really sure to begin with. You are also considerably older than her and at a different stage of life. It's very likely that there is nothing you did or didn't do for her to break up with you. She is probably just hooking up and hanging out with guys her own age -- living her life like it's golden. 1
aloneinaz Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 How do you "break up" after a few dates during two weeks? To me, you dated a couple of times and she didn't feel it. So, you say, oh well...next and keep dating. 1
sooshi Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 I had a lot of unresolved issues that were eating away at my confidence and self-esteem...ie not being responsible, commited to things, or in control of my life enough. Best to stay single and work on those things. Not only will you be healthier and happier, but you'll also attract a partner who is also healthy and happy. Take care.
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