Alone and unsure

[Jalusha]

Hello forum, hope you're all well.

 

As the title suggests, I am both confused about a current love situation and also lonely.

So, I am very much in to this girl from my work. A couple of weeks back I attended a works do and she was there. Up until this point I had no idea what she thought of me. We always get on well and she is very friendly, but after many disappointments with love I didn't want to read too much in to it. On the evening of the works event, we had all had a few drinks and she came over and sat at my table. We talked, as normal and all of a sudden she held my hand. I was both amazed and sincerely happy. I thought, this could be it, finally getting a girl that I genuinely like. The rest of the night we held hands and kissed and that evening she stayed in my hotel room. We didn't have sex but just having her there and holding her was amazing, she's amazing. I remember at one point in the night someone asked her if we were together which she replied "not yet". I felt like a million bucks.

So, after that we went back to normality, work, etc. I text her the evening after to see how she was. Her replies were short and not opening anything for a conversation. At work, again, we chatted in person, but I am very hesitant to ask where I stand for fear of rejection. I can't stand rejection, having felt it a few times this year alone I don't think I could handle it again. I'm scared to text her to ask where I stand. Essentially I'm stuck in limbo and I have no one to talk about it with. I feel very alone and while everyone around me is in a relationship and happy, I am left asking what I have done wrong.

Just looking for some insight of what people think I should do, I genuinely don't know right now and it's getting me very down.

 

Thanks for taking your time to read this.

[Satu]

Don't ask her where you stand.

 

It's not the right time for that question.

 

Instead ask her out to something definite.

 

"Would you like to go to this concert/show/event on date/time?"

 

It takes a little leap of faith to do this, but you can do it.

 

 

Take care.

[preraph]

Yeah, like Satu said. You are missing the entire boat here, man. She took a big shot and let you know she liked you -- and you haven't even asked her out on a date yet! Get your butt on the phone and ask her out to somewhere nice, your treat. She's not volunteering to be your concubine. She said "not yet" because you haven't done one dang thing to date her yet.

[five2nine]

Ask her on a date. Dating takes some risk and yes there is potentisl for rejection. She might be waiting to see you can take some initiative too.

[Jalusha]

Thanks guys, appreciate your replies.

Guess I should take the risk although I'm nervous about it, hopefully it wasn't just a drunken thing.