Wimenknow79 Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 No judgement please. A guy I was seeing left me 4 his abusive ex. 2nd time they broke up this year. They were apart 3 months. He blocked me on everything. I was friends with him for two years. This was less than a month they were together this time. They broke up. He put he was single on his profile and unblocked me on everything. He hasn't said anything. I went ahead and sent him a friends request on Facebook. I called him and told him finally how I felt about him over voicemail and that I would care for his son too since he is a part of him. I told him he didn't have to do this alone. I told him if I didn't hear from him that I had my answer and I will always be there for him as a friend and I wish him the best. I haven't said anything else since. The ball is in his court. That was over a week. I still haven't heard from him and he still hasn't accepted or rejected my Facebook friend request. Its pending. They broke up going on almost 3 weeks ago. Why unblock me on everything but not respond or accept my friend request? Do you think he will contact me? I would rather him just reject my facebook request and leave me blocked if hes not going to talk to me. I am not going to contact him. I almost feels like a game. 1
stillafool Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 How long did you give him to respond to you before you give up? To me, if he were at all interested you would have heard back from him by now. If he keeps breaking up and going back to his ex and they have a child together; his feelings run deep for her. I doubt seriously he is over her and more than likely they will go back together again. 2
sooshi Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 (edited) Read up on co-dependency. Let this one go. It's time to focus on you. Take care. Edited September 23, 2016 by sooshi 2
aloneinaz Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 I think you need to do some self reflection sweetie. I'm not sure why you'd even want to be friends or hope to date this guy again? He has years of this off/on unhealthy relationship drama ahead of him. He is nowhere near healthy enough to consider dating anyone else at this point. You clearly have feelings for this guy still and you don't want him to use you as an FWB while he navigates through his mess that he's in. I think you need to figure out why you'd even consider this. Personally, you'd be much better off spending your time dating new folks that don't have that mountain of drama and baggage with them. 3
opal101 Posted September 24, 2016 Posted September 24, 2016 Walk away. Like others have said, he would have contacted you by now. Focus on you. 1
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