mlischmann Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 I've found this forum this week, as it's been a week since my live in girlfriend and I split up. We were together a year, it was a fast and furious relationship. She is younger than me, but after 11 months together she really wanted to move in with me. The relationship was still going very well so we did. As of two weeks ago she was sending me texts with links for clothes for a beach wedding and telling me that she was going to marry me one day. We also just took a family vacation a month ago she has a 3 year from another relationship. She came to me last week and said that I'm too good to her and she is having issues with living with me and that she thought she would never be good enough for me and that I should have someone that can treat me right..(all the fun excuses I'm sure) Also about 2 weeks ago her best friend asked to live with us(we had room) because she had issues with money and had to save up for an apartment. This friend is a wild child. The day she moved in our relationship changed. My girlfriend who has treated me like a king. If you saw her FB and social media you'd think we were a fairy tale. But once the friend came in, she started treated me like crap. Yelling at me, yelling at her kid. coming home and not saying a word just going to her friends room. All the signs someone is checking out. My only issue is that it happened so soon after a really good vacation, the texts about how i have no choice but to marry her and such. I have deleted her from all my social media, we did text yesterday as she had a few items left over at the house. She had a girls vegas trip planned this weekend so I know she'll be doing the single thing well, and I don't think that bothers me, I think I'm just bothered how someone in a week or 2 can just do a 180. Anybody else have something like that happen?
Toodaloo Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 The friend is bad news and clearly what has caused the split. Some people are easily lead by others... For what its worth I think you need to get her stuff back to her before the Vegas trip and then go silent on her. You have just got out of a whole heap of drama here. Be thankful for it. I know it hurts but follow all the advice here about how to get over a break up and you will be just fine.
aloneinaz Posted September 23, 2016 Posted September 23, 2016 Times 2 on swap your things ASAP so neither of you have any reason to have further contact. As far as the flip flop? Who knows. This site is littered with a gazzilion threads with "he said I was the love of his/her life just last week".. What it really means? NOTHING.. Her words were useless and her actions did her real talking. I think you dodged a bullet my friend. Get your stuff, dump her stuff and block her on your phone and social media. Change your apartment keys and don't answer your door if she stops by, not saying she will. You'll be fine.. Heal from it and move on.
Author mlischmann Posted September 26, 2016 Author Posted September 26, 2016 Thanks for the words both of you. We swapped things last Thursday and have not had any contact till this morning when she text me and all is said was how are you feeling? I have not texted back as I'm trying NC right now.
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