Girls...if a guy aks you if you have a boyfriend?

[Curious-One]

and you respond with NO is it safe to say that you are interested in that guy and you would go out on a date with him?

 

Anytime i approach a girl... mid convo i will say something along the lines you are cute do you have a boyfriend or you are fun do you have a bf?

 

I do this for two reasons

 

1 ) to let the girl know i am interested in dating her not just to chit chat or having a friendly convo

 

2) to give her a chance to say yes she has a boyfriend if she is not interested in me so that there is no awkward let me get your number and girl going uhmmm yah i dont think my boyfriend would like that (whether true or just to politely reject you.)

 

So my question is that if a guy asked you this and you said no i dont would it be safe to assume that you are attracted to that guy and would be willing to give him a chance. If you were not interested in the guy and you did not have a boyfriend would you still say no or would you say yes so that the guy can leave you alone?

 

Finally would you say this is a good idea and do you wish more guys would do this ?

[elaine567]

Generally a good idea and many will make up a bf if they aren't interested in you, but there will be a % who genuinely do not have a bf and will tell the truth when asked, but do not want to date you either, so will reject you when you then proceed to ask them out.

[JewelD]

No, just have some courage and ask the girl on a date.

 

If she has a bf or isn't interested, she can respond with that. But if she is interested, you will have clear confirmation because she will say yes.

 

Personally, I've found that it doesn't really matter either way what you say to a guy when you are not interested. I've told men I had a bf when I didn't and they said "I can still be your friend". or the charming, "So? I'm not afraid of your boyfriend".

 

But I usually only encounter situations like that when I'm at the grocery store or some other place not designated for picking up dates. So this all depends on where these conversations are happening.

[Bialy]

Just because a female says doesn't have a boyfriend doesn't mean she's interested in dating you.

[Curious-One]

Just because a female says doesn't have a boyfriend doesn't mean she's interested in dating you.

 

Hmm i thought it would be obvious thing to do ...if a random girl approached me that i had 0 interest in dating and asked me if i had a gf i would just say yes to get her off my back and i would assume it would even be more obvious thing to do for a girl.

 

I mean if a guy asks you do you have a bf and you say no then he tries to get your number later on you got to make up some excuse at how you are not interested in him or you dont give out your number to strangers... wouldnt the obvious thing to do is say yes so you can avoid that whole awkward situation.

[basil67]

Hmm i thought it would be obvious thing to do ...if a random girl approached me that i had 0 interest in dating and asked me if i had a gf i would just say yes to get her off my back and i would assume it would even be more obvious thing to do for a girl.

 

I mean if a guy asks you do you have a bf and you say no then he tries to get your number later on you got to make up some excuse at how you are not interested in him or you dont give out your number to strangers... wouldnt the obvious thing to do is say yes so you can avoid that whole awkward situation.

 

Some people don't like lying.

[Curious-One]

No, just have some courage and ask the girl on a date.

 

If she has a bf or isn't interested, she can respond with that. But if she is interested, you will have clear confirmation because she will say yes.

 

Personally, I've found that it doesn't really matter either way what you say to a guy when you are not interested. I've told men I had a bf when I didn't and they said "I can still be your friend". or the charming, "So? I'm not afraid of your boyfriend".

 

But I usually only encounter situations like that when I'm at the grocery store or some other place not designated for picking up dates. So this all depends on where these conversations are happening.

 

Well i would say it already takes alot of courage to walk up to a girl and start a conversation. On top of that asking her if she has a bf pretty much tells her you are talking to her because you are interested in dating. It just gives her a easy out so that she doesnt have to make up excuse later on or get into the awkward situations when the guy asks for the number. I would say its pretty ballsy to ask a girl if she has a bf even more ballsy then asking her for her number so you can hangout later on which is somewhat indirect and might be interpreted as a guy wanting to be friends.

 

Also i have heard some guys use that lame line as when a girl says she has a bf which is stupid IMO because if a girl is saying she has a bf she is either telling the truth and telling you she is not availlable or making it up which again tells you she is not interested in dating you so trying to prolongue the conversation and is kinda pointless.

[h0000]

It's ok if you ask girls this question but "NO I don't have a BF" doesn't mean she is interested in you. Means she is just honest.

[elaine567]

Hmm i thought it would be obvious thing to do ...if a random girl approached me that i had 0 interest in dating and asked me if i had a gf i would just say yes to get her off my back and i would assume it would even be more obvious thing to do for a girl.

 

I mean if a guy asks you do you have a bf and you say no then he tries to get your number later on you got to make up some excuse at how you are not interested in him or you dont give out your number to strangers... wouldnt the obvious thing to do is say yes so you can avoid that whole awkward situation.

 

You cannot project what you would do onto others.

Some people are honest because they just mostly like to tell the truth when asked directly about anything, and some are honest because they do not want to be caught out on a lie later on, as that can be just as awkward.

[Toodaloo]

No.

 

If I have a boyfriend then I am not going to be looking around for another guy. Even if the relationship is coming to an end I am not going to strike up a relationship with another man... Its called having ethics and a sense of treating others with dignity.

 

If I say no and I am making up a boyfriend its because I have a sense that the guy asking is not going to give up and is going to keep asking despite the answer of No. The "fake" boyfriend is there as a back up excuse.

 

If you ask and a girl says no. It means no. Don't push it or you just end up being a creep.

 

Be friendly but accept that no means no. Quite literally.

[ASG]

I've made up many boyfriends. If I'm not interested and it's someone I don't know and will likely never see again, like at a club or something.

 

If it's a friend of friends I will sometimes say that I'm seeing someone (I mean... I am seeing my fwb,it's just not exclusive!!) Again to get them off my back but without lying.

 

If it's someone I think I might develop a friendship with I don't lie but hope they don't ask me out.

 

However, if a stranger asks and I say no, it's because I definitely would not mind being asked out

[Curious-One]

I've made up many boyfriends. If I'm not interested and it's someone I don't know and will likely never see again, like at a club or something.

 

If it's a friend of friends I will sometimes say that I'm seeing someone (I mean... I am seeing my fwb,it's just not exclusive!!) Again to get them off my back but without lying.

 

If it's someone I think I might develop a friendship with I don't lie but hope they don't ask me out.

 

However, if a stranger asks and I say no, it's because I definitely would not mind being asked out

 

See this is exactly what i had in mind when coming with this strategy.

[preraph]

You can't go by that, and here's why. Some women are terminally honest. They can't help themselves. So telling you, No, I don't have a boyfriend" is not equal to "Yes, I am interested in you." You are hoping a woman would just go ahead and lie and say "Yes, I have a boyfriend" just to keep you from asking her out, but that's asking too much. Only the hardest rode of us are thinking that fast on our pretty little feet. It's a good question to ask nonetheless, because it's a starting point, but it won't save you from having to stick your neck out at some point and get it chopped off every now and then. So you can judge more from how they answer with body language than what they actually say. If they say "No," but they look avoidant, they are not interested. That should be pretty easy to decipher. If they say "no," but look at you like you're crazy and cheeky to ask, they're laughing at you, so strike two. If they say "no" and start smiling and keep hanging around looking at you like they're waiting, you might be onto something.