pioneer Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 I was with my ex for 5 1/2 years, we've been broken up for about 9 months. She finished it over a text, and wouldn't even meet with me to talk about things. At first when we broke up, i wasn't to concerned, as we'd been arguing a lot and i felt we needed a break. In fact thats what she said she wanted, a break, so i left her alone for a week before contacting her. When i did contact her, she sent me a text message saying, i sorry but were not getting back together this time. We've broke up before when we'd been together for about 2 (only for about six weeks) when she left me for someone else, but when we got back, i always felt it was because id pressured her into coming back. I felt really ill at time, i lost weight and had a month off work, so i decided this time, i try to get on with my life and see if she contacted me first. Well she never rang me to see how i was or anything, the only contact she made from time to time was on msn, and she saw me in my car once and followed me. She worked abroad for a while, went on holiday with friends, and went out clubbing every week, i let her get on with it as i knew shed been tied down with me since an early age. The trouble is, now she with someone else, i don't just miss her, i miss her whole family, i virtually lived with them, and its left a big gap in my life, she is the only person iv slept with, and i still love her so much. I cant believe, that she's acting like all the time we spent together never happened, i know that she must know how much it is hurting me. I occasionally have to drive past her house on the way to a friends, and when i see this new lads car parked there, it really eats at me inside. I rally feel like i want to ring her to tell her how i feel, the last time we spoke was over 2 months ago, when she first started seeing this lad. How can someone uv spent so much time with, just dump you, forget about you and move on so easily?? and would it be a good idea to ring her?? Im having trouble sleeping and eating just lately. Iv only dated 1 other girl since we split and it just didn't feel right at all. Iv blocked her off my msn now, so the only way she could contact me is by phone. I dont for one minute think she will, and im not waiting for her to, i just feel so hurt.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by pioneer I was with my ex for 5 1/2 years, we've been broken up for about 9 months. She finished it over a text, and wouldn't even meet with me to talk about things. This is awful behaviour. Cowardice, rudeness and selfishness rolled into one disgusting package. so i decided this time, i try to get on with my life and see if she contacted me first. Good strategy. its left a big gap in my life, she is the only person iv slept with, and i still love her so much. I cant believe, that she's acting like all the time we spent together never happened, i know that she must know how much it is hurting me. How can someone uv spent so much time with, just dump you, forget about you and move on so easily?? Hmmm. My suspicion is that she hasn't forgotten about you, although she was probably emotionally disengaging while you were still together - she just kept this from you until she was ready to take the leap. You have to take time and understand just how badly - and exceptionally badly - she has behaved. Check with female friends if they have ever text dumped someone, for example. The strength of their reaction will give you a clue as to how unacceptable this is. Because she was your first, of course she'll stick in your head for a while. But you want to be with someone who will treat you decently. and would it be a good idea to ring her?? No. She's trouble. Move on.
broken guy Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Follow my LONG back story here. I was kicked out of the country, lied to, dumped in an email sent from a phone, lied to again for another week and then got the truth! 3 and a half months down the line, I still love her and I fully understand how you cant understand how someone can treat you in such a way. I just wished I had UTTERLY ignored her rather than try and talk to her, mind you, I was just working off her initial reason of "Your too good for me. You deserve better than an insane, selfish cow like me" which was a POOR excuse hence why I tried to talk to her. So just forget her and join me on the long, hard road to freedom. Yes, she was my first love too and the first girl I was with. It hard and its painful but you never know, leave her be and she might come to you, mine wont. She blames it on me mainly! Lies and twisting events to justify their actions are what girls seem to do.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by broken guy Lies and twisting events to justify their actions are what girls seem to do. What SOME girls seem to do. Most don't.
broken guy Posted July 7, 2005 Posted July 7, 2005 My mistake. Please dont attack me girls...unless you need a single guy
Delicaterose00 Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 My ex of 2 years just left me in May... he cheated on me. He then decided he didnt know what he wanted... and kept me hanging on. I lived there for a month with his whole family.... they were like my second family. When I left there I felt like a big part of me was left there. I know how hard it is for you. He I know is with someone else, even though he denied it... but there is so many lies he tells... I am hurt.. Im sure you feel like you want to die, your world is over, youll never love again.... cant eat, cant sleep, every song reminds you of them... I thought he was the one.. after 2 previous relationships... I thought he was it... the one.. My search was over... we even looked at engagement rings.... and then I find out he slept with someone.. I dont know how to get over the jelousy.. but I will tell you this.... You have to tell yourself everyday how strong you are, how you have made it this far.... that you WILL fall in love again..... Its been a few days since I last talked to him.. and I am sooooooo proud of that... it kills me... I did text him 2 days ago that I hated him and finally I found the hate and anger I should have had in the first place.... but part of me will always love him.... Im sure you feel the same... Jelousy sucks... heart ache sucks... but keep praying and telling yourself everyday.. you deserve nothing but the best, you wont settle for less than what you deserve.. do you think u are settling if you were to go back to her?? I know I would be. Ya.. you love the little things they said, the little things they used to do that were so cute.. but remind youself... you loved thoughs things.. not the person.. you didnt love that liar, and cheater!!! You will find someone to complete you... as I hope I do too..... coming to this site... make me know I am not alone in my pain and agony, but I will try and help people the way I am helping myself.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 8, 2005 Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by broken guy My mistake. Please dont attack me girls...unless you need a single guy
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