Persiancat Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 (edited) Ok so a few weeks back, met a guy when i was hangingout with friends. He's a mutual friend of my bestie. Anyway long story short, he turned out to be very interested in me and me not so much. I enjoyed the attention and thought he was nice, that's it. Later my bestie tries reallt hard to set me up with him. I tell her i dont find him attractive, and she slams me for being shallow and judgemental. Apparently hes a nice guy and looks aren't everything etc. So i agree to meet him to be open minded and get to know him and here he is paying for my food and trying hard to impress me. It felt like a date and I'm just feeling really pressured and unsure. So now he wants to meet me again and take me out for dinner and I'm just not sure what to do. Hes a nice guy, athletic but i just think he might be expecting something from me and I'm not sure i want to go there..atleast not now. Here i am just trying to know him as a person and he's flirting and making his feelings very obvious. I'm not there and not sure when i will be. How do i handle this!? I feel guilty now for so many things, adding the fact that i might hurt him soon. What do i do? Edited September 22, 2016 by Persiancat
jen1447 Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 If you don't want to go out w him, don't go out w him. Let the chips fall where they may otherwise. Thats life.
JewelD Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 Stop letting people pressure you into things you don't want to do. You're an adult, be vocal about your decisions and who you talk to. Also, when you agreed to go out with him after your friend said he was into you, that was a date. Why are you trying to get to know him as a person when you know he is interested in you as a potential girlfriend and that's not something you want? Don't go out with him. If you want, you can explain to him that you're not interested in him in that way. 1
smudge21 Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 People aren't mind readers and we all react differently, so stop presuming anything and just be clear about how you feel and what you want. If others can't accept your honesty then that's their problem, not yours. Your "bestie" should want the best for you and not be so quick to judge you simply because your tastes are different to hers.
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