millybell Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 After our first date, he initiated text every day for three days. (He was the one who acted very much interested entire time during our first date even said he could see us being together, he's comfortable around me all those sweet stuffs.) Then another 2 days neither us texted. I texted him the following day, he replied back with one word and ignored my last text(I asked him hows his trip and he ignored). Since that 3 days passed with no contact from either us. This morning I texted him saying I want to see him. He replied back 'Hey! I'll be back in town this weekend. Are you going to be around?' I asked him if he's coming back on Sunday.. and he HAS READ my text(it shows) and he HAS CHECKED his Facebook since I sent him the last text but he hasn't replied to me. I sometimes check incoming texts but reply them hours later when I'm busy, driving, no signal, etc. but he has checked his Facebook since my last text..idk. I think if he were not interested he would have just ignored my text (since he ignored the last one and we haven't spoken for 3 days since), or just told me he could see me sometime the following week, or just giving me another excuse that he can't see me... Is he trying to turn me down nicely or what.. what is this ;(
Ami1uwant Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Hard to say. With him traveling, it's hard to comunicate. He may ferl comfortable and thus not wanting g yo text. At the same time he could have been dating someone else after you and things went even better.
JewelD Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Well you just sent it this morning, maybe he's trying to check his schedule and see if he has anything else he needs/wants to do before he makes concrete plans with you. Regardless, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. How do you know he checked his facebook? Too much effort and concern for a guy you had one date with. Maybe date some other guys so you're not so focused on him and his response rates.
Leigh 87 Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Hard to say. With him traveling, it's hard to comunicate. He may ferl comfortable and thus not wanting g yo text. At the same time he could have been dating someone else after you and things went even better. Meh. I had a man I just met ONCE, we were over in Germany, I flew back NEXT DAY (To Australia) and yet HE managed to reach out and contact me most days despite him traveling the world. He was very interested at the time. World travel won't stop men who are into you.
Conviction Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 I just went through something similar. Trying to rationalize why I'm being ignored, receiving cold responses, etc. It came out eventually that she just wasn't interested. Coming from a guy, if I'm interested in a girl, she will know it.
Gaeta Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 After our first date, he initiated text every day for three days.(He was the one who acted very much interested entire time during our first date even said he could see us being together, he's comfortable around me all those sweet stuffs.) Then another 2 days neither us texted. I texted him the following day, ( I am trying to put myself in his shoes. He met you, showed his interest in you. Then he initiated communication with you for 3 days straight. When he stopped initiating text you didn't initiate any communication for 2 days and you send something on 3rd day. I think he stopped texting to check your level of interest as he was the only one initiating so far. And looks like you failed that test. 1
TunaCat Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 I think he stopped texting to check your level of interest as he was the only one initiating so far. And looks like you failed that test. Yup, I think Gaeta's right on the money with this one. I was thinking the exact same thing. 1
Pete2304 Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 I will say this, I've heard from both partners and friends who are girls that us blokes aren't supposed to show too much interest because then we come across as too keen and all that. Personally, I think if two people like each other then no need to play games trying to hide it and be hard to get but that's just me. I think to be brutal, in this case, if he's not just trying to prove that he's too keen, it doesn't sound too great really. I've never seen anything wrong with just asking outright, what have you got to lose? Don't have to be all crazy about it but no harm in a text to say had a good time when we met up, I really fancy going out again sometime but if that's not for you then no worries, just be honest with me. If he likes you he will soon stop messing about, if not then you will know. PS, whilst I am genuinely trying to be helpful, I also would be the first to acknowledge I'm not exactly an expert when it comes to dating advice lol I do think too many daft games are played though by both women and men and it's silly at times.
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