alpet Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Hi. There's this guy [we're both males aged 34] I've been seeing on and off for about 3 years. We happened to "meet" again online 5 days ago, where he told me he had excepted my call over the last year, to which I replied that I tried several times but his number turned out to be unavailable, which is true. [i no longer have his number, but he still has mine.] Long story short, we agreed to meet when he'd return from out of town (these days). I said 'hi' congratulating for a pic he put on his profile, but having read the message, he didn't reply. Should I react somehow now, or wait for him to contact me? Or this means he's no longer interested and let it go? Thanks. P.S. I really like him, and we have had pleasant dates.. 1
Satu Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 I think his interest is less than yours. That seems obvious. Take care. 2
Toodaloo Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 you would be good for a quick shag but he wants nothing more... Silence is universal for not all that interested regardless of sexuality... Sorry OP. Dating sucks like a dyson sometimes. Hope you have better luck with the next one. 1
Author alpet Posted September 21, 2016 Author Posted September 21, 2016 you would be good for a quick shag but he wants nothing more... Silence is universal for not all that interested regardless of sexuality... Sorry OP. Dating sucks like a dyson sometimes. Hope you have better luck with the next one. Thanks for the feedback. Well, I have never pushed him for a serious relationship or something, but maybe you're right.. 1
hippychick3 Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 A lack of a response is usually a response in and of itself. I wouldn't contact him again. Sorry, OP. 1
Satu Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Thanks for the feedback. Well, I have never pushed him for a serious relationship or something, but maybe you're right.. Every relationship is serious, even when people don't recognise it as such. Take care.
Zahara Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 We happened to "meet" again online 5 days ago, where he told me he had excepted my call over the last year, to which I replied that I tried several times but his number turned out to be unavailable, which is true. [i no longer have his number, but he still has mine.] His fingers were broken? If he was interested he wouldn't have sat around waiting. Sounds like a line. On and off for 3 years. Yes, not much interest. 1
Author alpet Posted September 21, 2016 Author Posted September 21, 2016 His fingers were broken? If he was interested he wouldn't have sat around waiting. Sounds like a line. On and off for 3 years. Yes, not much interest. Well, you're right but he asked me & expected me to call once I'd move into my apt. [ where we'd meet intimately properly]. But the final works (furnishing etc) took a bit longer than I expected, and when I tried to reach him [some days after I was into my apt], his number was unavailable (,as I mentioned in the original post).
Zahara Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 Well, you're right but he asked me & expected me to call once I'd move into my apt. [ where we'd meet intimately properly]. But the final works (furnishing etc) took a bit longer than I expected, and when I tried to reach him [some days after I was into my apt], his number was unavailable (,as I mentioned in the original post). It doesn't matter. If he was really interested he would have reached out. Coupled with the fact that you have only been able to progress to a point of on and off for three years, as well as his non-response now, then it's indicative of his disinterest.
Author alpet Posted September 21, 2016 Author Posted September 21, 2016 It doesn't matter. If he was really interested he would have reached out. Coupled with the fact that you have only been able to progress to a point of on and off for three years, as well as his non-response now, then it's indicative of his disinterest. You're right.. I even apologized to him for any misunderstanding on my part, in that I didn't do anything intentional to ignore him, also telling him I wasn't sure enough if he really cared for me. So, now he knows that I like him, and thinks, I guess, that I'd do everything to "win" him back, which is not gonna be the case! 1
Toodaloo Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 Good on you. When a guy is interested you will know for sure and you will not be worried about all this stuff. So when I find I am worried about it... I take it as a sign that something is off. The right relationship is always easy regardless of the amount of effort it takes or what else is going on for the simple reason that you feel secure and happy and free! You are free to phone when you want or text when you want or whatever. There is no hanging about for days on end. Its just a lot easier than this. Hang in there.
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