thisisconfusing Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 (edited) I broke up with him. Some backstory: He pursued me, I was pretty closed off to the idea of being in a relationship. After a few weeks I gave in, because i like him. He introduced me to his daughter (14yo) and things were great, she liked me he liked me. Literally from one day to the next he pulled back. Asked for space. I took it very personal. Mainly because of the timing. I had given him HSV2. I disclosed that info prior to having sex FYI. I was incredibly hot and cold about whether I wanted to stay in contact with him while he had his space(after not speaking for a couple of days--he stated that he had grown attached to me). Long story short I eventually ended it. He and I would stop speaking for a month then I would text him and we'd speak for like a week. Then again we would stop speaking for a month and Id text him. This continued for like 4 months. I feel he likes me. He's very respectful. When we do talk, he talks very highly of me. He sees what a lot of people don't. I want the NC for myself but of course in the back of my mind I would like to know if I ruined my chances of getting him back. He didn't see any reason to break up, I went from being an unemotional woman to feeling all types of feelings and made what was the right decision at that moment to end it. What I did: -Be very expressive of my feelings towards him. -I never fully gave him the proper space. -When we did speak, I would bring up the relationship and what I wanted. -Wanted to see if there were any feelings (I can validate myself, but would've liked to know if there was a chance) Edited September 21, 2016 by thisisconfusing
gorf Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 It sounds like what you really need is time to find yourself before getting with anyone. He needed space, that early on, for a reason. 2
VeveCakes Posted September 21, 2016 Posted September 21, 2016 I would forget this guy. 4 months of breadcrumbs. Hes emotionally unavailable. Sounds like an avoidant type.
travelbug1996 Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 If someone gave me hsv2 I would be highly upset.
Quiet Storms Posted September 22, 2016 Posted September 22, 2016 If someone gave me hsv2 I would be highly upset. On the one hand, the OP said she disclosed this fact before they had sex. However, on the other (and BIGGER) hand, the OP is the one with HSV2 and it is HER RESPONSIBILITY to make sure she does not transmit it. OP, your potential partners may not necessarily understand the significance of you saying "I have HSV2". I'm assuming you did not use protection since you transmitted it to him. Perhaps he thought that if YOU were willing to have unprotected sex, there wasn't a significant risk. After all, if you care about somebody at all, you don't knowingly put their health at risk. He should have been more vigilant about his own health, but now he has learned a really hard lesson about trust that will literally be with him for a lifetime. I am surprised he talks to you at all. Not everyone is likely to be as educated as you regarding HSV2 and risk of sexual intercourse (or other types of sex). You are the one with the virus, OP. It's on YOU to be educated enough and forward thinking enough and caring enough to have responsible sex and not put other people at risk.
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