You thought you could handle it... but then you find out you can't

[august14]

I had a fling with a guy I thought was cute but wasn't extra interested in. I thought since I wasn't extra interested in him I'd be able to have a fling with him and move on with relative ease. In fact, from the beginning I assumed at most we would have a fwb-type of relationship.

 

As it turns out, I really want to be with him. We were only casual friends before, but after we hooked up all communication from him pretty much stopped. He would still respond to my texts, but he no longer initiates anything. I don't feel used exactly, but I guess I feel that all he wanted from me was sex after all and I feel... betrayed? duped? stupid?

 

Meh. Either way, how to cope?

 

Edit: I also see his friends sometimes and now am paranoid that he tells them how I was in bed.

[Nowty V]

If it's not going anywhere .. none of it matters..

 

put it out of your mind, move on

[smudge21]

Sounds like you both went into this with the same feelings - just a fling and nothing more. However, as most of those FWB deals end up, one of you developed feelings. It happens. There's also the fact that he has walked away will have bruised your ego a bit. Prior to that you were feeling pretty much in charge of the situation - he walks and you feel out of control and lost. All you can do is take this as a lesson learned and move on. Just remember that we do not choose who we fall in love with or have feelings for. It just happens.