Why is he acting this way?

[mayxx]

I have been seeing this guy for awhile now. Anyways, for the last month or he ignores me sometimes during the week. I will respond to his text and then he won't respond. If I texted again he probably would respond. I have done this to him before and then he sends multiple texts until I respond. We work opposite shifts which makes it hard to see one another during the week. We see each other most weekends. I know for certain that their is not another girl or such. I am just confused as to why he behaves this way sometimes?

Edited September 21, 2016 by mayxx

[Scarletwolf]

Ask him what he expects from this relationship. Plain and simple, no mind games. Whether he wants it to work out and grow or its something for him to pass time with. You will never know unless you ask him.

[gorf]

I have been seeing this guy for awhile now. Anyways, for the last month or he ignores me sometimes during the week. I will respond to his text and then he won't respond. If I texted again he probably would respond. I have done this to him before and then he sends multiple texts until I respond. We work opposite shifts which makes it hard to see one another during the week. We see each other most weekends. I know for certain that their is not another girl or such. I am just confused as to why he behaves this way sometimes?

 

Pick up the phone and call him!!! Go see him when you can. Stop with the texting, its robotic. Call the guy and let him hear your voice

[mayxx]

I can't call during the week because of our work schedules. When I am working he is off and when I am off he is working.

[Ami1uwant]

I can't call during the week because of our work schedules. When I am working he is off and when I am off he is working.

 

Stop reading into texting.

 

If one of you don't respond it's because of work.

 

Do you have a lunch hour ?? Dies he??? Call and talk then.

[gorf]

I can't call during the week because of our work schedules. When I am working he is off and when I am off he is working.

 

so you see him on the weekends only, and the other 5 or 6 days in between, you dont see eachother and dont talk (texting does not count as talking). Am I correct?

[mayxx]

No we text, but like I was saying above..sometimes he then just doesn't respond. Then later sometimes a few days he will text me something that has nothing to do with my previous text.

[gorf]

No we text, but like I was saying above..sometimes he then just doesn't respond. Then later sometimes a few days he will text me something that has nothing to do with my previous text.

 

We get it .. you like to text. No wonder this guy isnt responding. He is bored to death! Texting gets boring. Is he your pen-pal or your boyfriend!? He wants to hear you voice, not see robotic words on a screen. Call him! and cut it out with the texting unless you plan to drive him away like you are doing. It almost sounds like you are scared to talk to him. I agree with the last guy.. if you cant find 5 minutes a day to call him (let alone a few days) then there is a reason why, and its not being to busy. Believe me, your bf is getting the message

Edited September 21, 2016 by gorf

[mayxx]

He actually prefers texting. He doesn't talk on the phone much to anyone. He even texts family instead of calling.

[stillafool]

I can't call during the week because of our work schedules. When I am working he is off and when I am off he is working.

 

So you don't get a break or lunchbreak at your job? You could call him during that time.

[stillafool]

He actually prefers texting. He doesn't talk on the phone much to anyone. He even texts family instead of calling.

 

If you guys can't talk other than texting the relationship will go no where.

[gorf]

He actually prefers texting. He doesn't talk on the phone much to anyone. He even texts family instead of calling.

 

Well, apparently not.

 

Cant even respond to you properly. A few second text. Maybe you have to be the one to change this. Obviously its not working and hopefully you see texting is not a proper substitute for relationship communication. You see what is happening here, that's why you came here to begin with. There is a problem, texting is the problem, and its not him. Its only going to get worse and drive him away in boredom the more you let it go on

[noukster]

I think you shouldn't stress over it. Honestly when I look back to when me and my boyfriend we're still chatting/texting and weren't together.. I think to myself "how on earth did we get into a relationship", because he could be very vague and not reply to my messages for days. It wasn't because he didn't care, he was really into me.. but boys just don't think like that and are a lot "easier" with the whole texting thing.

 

 

Don't get mad at him, try to talk to him in a positive or joking way. Tell him you like it when he texts you etc.

[smackie9]

I can't call during the week because of our work schedules. When I am working he is off and when I am off he is working.

You do have breaks or take a lunch don't you?

[fred123]

how long have you two been seeing each other and how often?

[katiegrl]

He actually prefers texting. He doesn't talk on the phone much to anyone. He even texts family instead of calling.

 

Yeah I wish folks would get off this you must CALL routine instead of text.

 

Many people PREFER text (or email) I am one of them! I HATE talking on the phone!

 

I much prefer a man text or email me and I am NOT alone in that.

 

So I think people need to chill about "you should CALL!!"

 

It doesn't matter whether it's a text, call or email.

 

The important thing is that two people are communicating!!

 

And when two people are into each other, that is precisely what they do -- communicate!

 

Whether it's text, email or call. Does not matter.

 

OP I think if he were interested, he would at the very least be more responsive to your texts.

 

Since that IS how you have been communicating after all (which you said is HIS preferred way). And yours too obviously.

 

It is ludicrous to believe that if you CALLED, you would receive a different response.

 

That is nuts!

Edited September 21, 2016 by katiegrl

[mayxx]

how long have you two been seeing each other and how often?

 

We see each other every weekend. This has only been happening in the last month or so. We have been seeing each other for a several months. Should I bring it up and how shall I word it?

[katiegrl]

We see each other every weekend. This has only been happening in the last month or so. We have been seeing each other for a several months. Should I bring it up and how shall I word it?

 

Every other weekend? Is there a reason for that?

 

Perhaps you could let him know you would like to spend a bit more time together and gauge his response? Like maybe once a week?

 

Things should be progressing after several months.... but you guys seem stuck in place, not moving forward.

 

Re the texting, don't say anything. Learn to be more flexible and roll with it.

 

If you respond to a text for example, leave it. He may have just wanted to let you know he was thinking of you, NOT have a protracted text exchange.

 

You said he does respond when YOU text him, that's good.

 

Don't overdue the texting. That gets old.

 

Focus on trying to spend more time together in person.

 

THAT is what counts. Not his texting style.

 

G'luck!