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So Angelina files for divorce?

 

I can't believe this. Please note that I am a serious person, I espite cheating, but I think they didn't physically cheated. I was so memorized by Jolie, so I made an exception for her.

 

Mostly of all, I think they have real chemistry and are soulmate. They seem really into and compliment each other. They had been through so much and after so many years and at such age, they still get divorce?

 

I officially lost faith in relationship and marriage. Nothing last. No such thing as soulmate.

 

alright, from now on, I stop dreaming find the one and get marry. it's not going to happen.

 

Life is so ironic...I grew up where there was almost no divorce and marriage seems forever. I have always believe in the one and forever. Most of my cousins and my bro, I believe that only date once and got married, even they are in N.A. Only one cousin got divorce, I believe that probably has something to do with the fact she married to a white guy? So, it's not just that I am weird, it's a culture thing.

 

That's the main reason why I am still single and remain inexperienced when I have had the chances.

 

Time has changed.

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In your other recent thread, you mentioned something to the effect that you lost faith in men's fidelity when you found out that Bruce Lee cheated.

 

 

Do you think it's possible that you put far too much weight on what a few celebrities may or may not be doing right and extrapolating those few data points on far too big a range of people?

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It does give pause...particularly when its the institution of marriage and dissolution.

 

Is it really our place though to be anything but supportive even in times like these?

 

If memory serves...they both were there for one another during her moms ailment and her own....Surprised these two haven't learned how precious life is and the commitment is....

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Oh come on they were shagging around behind JA's back at the start. Angelina Jolie is so bloody superb? Get a grip. I have serious doubts about her mental state and Brad is a man child who needs to be entertained...

 

These are not good role models at all.

 

Get them down off your pedal stool and choose people who actually make a difference in this world with out having to have a nose job or carry vials of blood around their necks in order to do it...

 

This is just another case of pretty is as pretty does. Sod all in any case.

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In your other recent thread, you mentioned something to the effect that you lost faith in men's fidelity when you found out that Bruce Lee cheated.

 

 

Do you think it's possible that you put far too much weight on what a few celebrities may or may not be doing right and extrapolating those few data points on far too big a range of people?

 

The man I was/am interested in keep adding women to his FB every week! WHY? HEART BREAKING! I am seriously consider unfriend him...but I afraid I will regret and there is no turning back! suck!

 

How I could be so wrong in judging someone's character? I am a complete idiot. why I am so silly?

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I know the research states that those from broken homes are more likely to divorce, themselves, and that those from "intact" families tend to have successful marriages...but...I have seen sooooo many exceptions to this that I believe there's more factors at play.

 

You said you grew up in an environment where divorce never happened and relationships just seemed to work. May I suggest to you that this was, in your case, a disadvantage? You grew up with the false idea that marriages were easy and that things just work. This isn't the case.

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I know the research states that those from broken homes are more likely to divorce, themselves, and that those from "intact" families tend to have successful marriages...but...I have seen sooooo many exceptions to this that I believe there's more factors at play.

 

You said you grew up in an environment where divorce never happened and relationships just seemed to work. May I suggest to you that this was, in your case, a disadvantage? You grew up with the false idea that marriages were easy and that things just work. This isn't the case.

 

I know. It took me half of my life time to unlearn what I learnt another half of my life time.

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I'm sorry. .. did you just say that your cousin got a divorce because she married a white guy and it's part of the 'white guy' culture?

 

Cause I'm part of that culture and if I missed a memo somewhere I'm definitely need to catch up.... I would hate to let down my racial gender's social expectations.

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I wouldn't take what's going on with celebrities as a relevant way of measuring how ordinary people have relationships.

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The man I was/am interested in keep adding women to his FB every week! WHY? HEART BREAKING! I am seriously consider unfriend him...but I afraid I will regret and there is no turning back! suck!

 

How I could be so wrong in judging someone's character? I am a complete idiot. why I am so silly?

 

You are heart broken over a random bloke, you are not even dating, adding random women as friends on facebook?

 

Just unfriend him and quit stalking him.

 

Girl you got to get control of those over active emotions and start getting with reality. Turn off the computer, turn off TV and get a real life.

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IRRC, didn't Brad and Angelina publicly admit to being in an open relationship? So, it's not exactly a huge surprise one of them found someone they like better. They've basically been interviewing replacements for some time. Brad just found his first.

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You are heart broken over a random bloke, you are not even dating, adding random women as friends on facebook?

 

Just unfriend him and quit stalking him.

 

Girl you got to get control of those over active emotions and start getting with reality. Turn off the computer, turn off TV and get a real life.

 

Yes, you are right. The hard part is execution.

 

but for the record, I thought he liked me that was how the whole thing started and he indeed has something that is very special and attractive to me, but now I think those are species, not the food. no matter how interesting a person is, if he do not think you are special, then he is of no use to me. Love and cherished by someone is the food.

 

so, yes, I am working on myself.

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It is just that life is truly a very lonely journey, when we get to the bottom of it.

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The man I was/am interested in keep adding women to his FB every week! WHY? HEART BREAKING! I am seriously consider unfriend him...but I afraid I will regret and there is no turning back! suck!

 

How I could be so wrong in judging someone's character? I am a complete idiot. why I am so silly?

 

The man I was/am interested in keep adding women to his FB every week! WHY? -- Because he's not in a relationship with you and he can see and talk to whomever he chooses. Unless he's promised to see/talk to only you, he can and should date/talk to other people and so should you.

 

How I could be so wrong in judging someone's character? -- keep adding women to his FB every week -- -- He isn't doing anything that represents poor character based on what you've said here.

 

I kinda don't understand your post . . .

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The man I was/am interested in keep adding women to his FB every week! WHY? -- Because he's not in a relationship with you and he can see and talk to whomever he chooses. Unless he's promised to see/talk to only you, he can and should date/talk to other people and so should you.

 

That I know.

 

How I could be so wrong in judging someone's character? -- keep adding women to his FB every week -- -- He isn't doing anything that represents poor character based on what you've said here.

 

I kinda don't understand your post . . .

 

If one talks to so many women (no guys), that looks like he is a promiscuous and flirty person(womanizer?), which isn't the type I appreciate. that's the only why I see. I am hoping people here could give me other WHYS here. then I was wrong in my initial judgement of that person.

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I wouldn't take what's going on with celebrities as a relevant way of measuring how ordinary people have relationships.

 

It appears I am not the only one who feels this way:

 

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/sep/20/brangelina-brad-pitt-angelina-jolie-divorce-love

 

maybe I should be a writer. I think and feel too much...if only my English is good enough.

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Sure, lots of people live vicariously through celebrities. They still are a poor representation of real life for the most part.

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That I know.

 

 

 

If one talks to so many women (no guys), that looks like he is a promiscuous and flirty person(womanizer?), which isn't the type I appreciate. that's the only why I see. I am hoping people here could give me other WHYS here. then I was wrong in my initial judgement of that person.

 

He's a single man. His best chance at having sex and/or finding a life mate is to be in contact with as many women as possible to allow himself the best chance of finding one who is compatible with him. He's perfectly normal. heterosexual men like women. It's what they do.

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